Should cm credit this time?

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Disclaimer. My cm is great and I know kids get sick it's unavoidable. I also can't find my contract at the moment so I'll have to dig around.

My cm's ds is sick and off school. We've had our youngest sent home loads lately from cm for teething, general grumpiness (so wouldn't participate which is fair enough etc) and I've made the informed decision I'm ok with her being around cm's poorly son as they aren't sharing cups plates etc. I have lost a LOT of time lately for work and had ended up with me having to stay up to the small hours to make up for it. I'm on number of deadlines today and need to get on before pick up time. I have a lot of flexibility with my job but I still have to, you know, do it.

Cm managed to get her child an appointment at the doctor's and asked if I could have my child back during the appointment because she can't take pushchairs in. I said it was fine and understood. Happy to help out as her kid is sick. They've been gone over an hour now and my child is getting quite comfortable and I know is going to have a major meltdown when they do eventually get picked up. I know surgeries can run late and know they're not off on a jolly.

I am switching my child to a nursery later because tbh the situation isn't really working for me and I'm losing so much time. However, the nursery we want hasn't got any allocation till summer. Would you expect to get this time back credited, considering I'm watching my only child in my house at present for in excess of an hour at least?

Ready to get flamed.

My child* they're not an only child.

The childminder sounds shoddy to be honest. You can't send a toddler home because they're grumpy!

How quickly can you get your DC into nursery?

I think your childminder is taking the piss, you don't send children home for teething / being grumpy. You send children home if they are actually unwell.

As for the doctors appointment, in what way is her son ill?

If he has a cold /bug she is being very unreasonable, and charging you for that hour shouldn't even be a consideration as she isn't looking after your child. What would she do if she had a younger child herself and had to go to the doctors?

My CM wouldn't charge me for that hour. She is fab though. We have a mutually beneficial friendly arrangement (I love her!). We'll often pick up kids at least an hour early often more and obviously pay until contracted time, no complaints but then sometimes she'll do an odd extra 30 mins for us without charging for it. I do always query that as I want to make sure we are paying her fairly but she always declines basing the reason on our frequent early pick-ups/not using her but paying her for the odd full day etc.

Your CM doesn't sound reliable - sending home for teething and/or not joining in - WTF? My LB is a nightmare when he hasnt napped but my CM just manages him (and probably puts the tv on and gives him a dummy like we do!)

From what I’ve read it doesn’t sound like she’s said no though has she?

Have you even asked her?

Not till the summer. She's been really good uo until lately but there's been a lot of sickness knocking around and there's a policy if the kids don't join in (and there are other charges) they need to send them home because it's disruptive and unfair. I totally get that.

She is really good and my kid loves her. They've come on so much from being there but I'm definitely starting to see that as much as I like her it's logistically a bit of a nightmare.

I think you should get credited for it, your CM is very unreliable,

there's a policy if the kids don't join in (and there are other charges) they need to send them home because it's disruptive and unfair. I totally get that.

How is that a fair policy? They may not like the activity, or they may have had a disturbed nights sleep so don't feel like joining in. A childminder should be like a home from home, you don't refuse to have a child just because they're not joining in.

there's a policy if the kids don't join in (and there are other charges) they need to send them home because it's disruptive and unfair. I totally get that.

That's not fair at all. She doesn't sound like a very good childminder if she sends children home for behaving like, well, children.

As an adult, do you want to join in with everything all the time? If not, why do you expect small children to?

I wouldn't be using her again.

I've never heard of a policy where the child is sent home because they don't want to join in? Most children under 2 don't play together really so would she just keep sending children home? Are you reimbursed for these times?
If nursery isn't until summer then I'd find a new cm
I handed my notice in because mine had become very unreliable suddenly taking days off without notice etc then when she found out I wasn't working as had booked holiday(had already paid a months in advance for cm so child still went) she kept coming up with excuses not to have her!