Separation and divorce after assault

[boymum9]

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I made a thread a few weeks ago about sexual assault from my husband (I'll try link it)

Possible assault from husband http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3487105-possible-assault-from-husband

After a few weeks of arguments and discussions and excuses (on his part), starting to see a councillor etc, I'm certain on my decision to leave the relationship. We went to see a councillor because he wanted to try and resolve things and thinks that in time I'll "forget" what he did...!! I went along to them for the sake of our kids and the last 10 years, but each session has just highlighted to me the years of lies from him and the behaviour that I know now has made me so unhappy.

But I'm really struggling with guilt, guilt for breaking up our children's home and family and anger towards him for what he did, and also towards his mother for her constant justifications of his actions, she said to me last night "you're looking at this in a bad light because of what happened in your childhood", (I woke to him sexually assaulting me and I have a history of sexual abuse as a child), this really hurt me.

I'm just really looking for some words of support, advice, anything to make me feel better in this situation? Thank you

I can't really offer any advise but didn't want to read and dash.
What he did was wrong.
You have a right to feel and be safe at home and no one has a right to touch you, husband or not. It may be worth looking for support groups and surround yourself with friends and people who love and support you.
Sending you lots of love and positivity. Good luck and stay strong. Xx

Get some counselling just for yourself. You don't need to listen to harmful people.
One day their words will be water off a ducks back. Until then you need to protect yourself, and distance is the best way to do that.

His mother will always look at it from his point of view.
Work with your therapist alone on your decisions . Don't do any more joint sessions. Do see therapist on your own.
Don't expect his mother to support you.

Your dc will be fine because you will be fine. Show them.it s ok to say no.