Aibu to think too many people use the Aibu topic on Mumsnet, when the Chat topic would do just as well?

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Why is Aibu so over-used?

People post everything in there. Don't they know about all the other topics/boards on this website?

Even if they're only using the lame excuse "posting for traffic" why not use Chat?

Aibu is for questions where you might be right and you might be wrong - so you're trying to gauge opinions.

It is not for asking yes or no questions or general tittle tattle. Any aibu that starts "Am I being unreasonable to ask" is not an aibu.

Do people even understand this?

Everyone who replies with "why does it bother you?" can fuck off btw.

I read it as "AIBU?" Most interesting or urgent threads
"Chat" interesting but can wait
"Relationships" because I can't justify watching Jeremy Kyle but am still a nosey Parker
Everything else- not particularly interesting or urgent
Which unfortunately means that mental health and things get missed completely unless people post under AIBU

Tips. FFS. That is all

Anyone got any tips on what I should buy in Lidl/Aldi/Waitrose. Seriously, are you allowed out unaccompanied if you cant write a fecking shopping list. How the feck to we know what your obscure dietry requirmentare, because that is the nature of the internet, you will have some.

showofhands totally agree People get absolutely hammered for no reason and some comments are vicious. I've had a look at a couple recently and am appalled by some of them. It's got worse lately too.

I wouldn't t ask anything on there.

The AIBU threads that get on my threepennies are the ones posted by a new OP who says treat me gently and then is a GF or faux-ingenous GF. Or thick as as mince. And ten pages in drip feeds some shit about being fragile/otherwise excused from actually engaging in the debate they've provoked.

Some posters never post or read anywhere else other than in AIBU. I don't think they look at any of the other topics.
They are on the lookout for a bunfight possibly and AIBU is where it's at.

YANBU and MNHQ show no interest in moving stuff from AIBU if they don't want to.

In particular I have asked them to shift all the Brexit threads to the Brexit board but they point blank refuse to unless the OP asks.

On the other hand, it does mean there is a chance to discuss a wide variety of stuff anonymously - which is a very very rapidly diminishing resource on the internet.

@echt What is a faux-ingenous GF (I know what the GF bit is).

As a PP said, are people not looking at active threads and reading the ones that catch their eye, regardless of which section it's in? That's what I do and I assumed others did as well.

Apart from boards that I like to take a peek at (like FWR, housekeeping, telly addicts) I tend to click on one of the five trending threads and they are more or less all AIBU.

It's the ones that start "Aibu to ask ..." that give me the rage. No, of course yanbu to ask a question.

Aibu to ask you what to buy in Lidl.

Just makes you look daft.

The problem is that posting for traffic on AIBU works: I posted a thread asking for advice on switching to combination feeding to return to work and got literally no replies on 'Back to Work', so I tried AIBU and got two pages of useful advice from women who had done it - though I was terrified of getting roasted for some tiny detail in my OP!

The problem with the specialist boards is not just that there are too many of them, but also that people stop using them when they don't need them - but that's often exactly the advice you need. Threads in childbirth, for instance, are dominated by: women who are still pregnant sharing what they plan to do, women who are badly traumatised by bad births, women who are evangelical about a particular type of birth (usually elective C-section, sometimes natural). The key group of 'women who had sort of average births and don't think about it all that often any more' are missing because they don't use the childbirth topic. Threads on birth on AIBU often go nasty in various ways, but you do at least get more of those voices.

YY the 'What to buy in Aldi' also sprang to mind. yes you are, just go down and have a look.

'AIBU to go to A&E'. Well you clearly have time for posting on the internet so you have ruled out the emergency bit, have you had an accident?

YANBU about the misuse of AIBU but you are being a bit hypocritical.

i think chat has the _ that it isn't top of the list. something to do with the out cry when it was set up back in the day.
yep really ((remembers how hard it was to get a music topic))

It keeps the bunfighting contained and leaves chat for pleasant and funny interaction.

Ive been thinking this lately.

Everyone posts in AIBU for the traffic as the other boards are dead, bar ‘Relationships’ ‘Brexit’ ‘Feminism’ and ‘Education.’

We really need a board cull as it’s really difficult to find boards and threads now - especially ‘Chat’ as I think its in ‘Fun & Games’ but its right at the end of the list so you cant see it unless you go into the board.

Mumsnet is a victim of its own success really as a few years ago, youd have less traffic but considered, intelligent posts (mostly), now, people clutter up the place with questions like ‘AIBU to think yellow jelly is better than red.’

The level of discourse is slowly sinking to that of the other (sparkly) place.

Really, samcro?I've always wondered about _chat