To try so soon?!

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So I left my STBXH early last year. I got together with my current partner in July last year. We have known each other for 10 years and have a great solid foundation.
I already have a 4 year old and we both really would like a child together. We are older (I’m 34). We both have good jobs and are looking to buy another property together this year. We love each other dearly and have the best time. I feel like I’ve found my soulmate.

My closest friends and sibling think I’m absolutely nuts for even contemplating it so soon. It doesn’t feel weird to me.
Am I being nuts? Is it too soon?

Yes,you're nuts! Got with him a few months after leaving your husband and less than a year in you want to try for a baby? Bonkers! Wait. You have time :) enjoy your time together

I would wait. It's pretty normal to feel broody when you're all loved up but it passes. Give it a year and after the house bit.

It’s your life, you can contemplate/ do whatever you like!

However. As you will know, having a baby is extremely hard work and does put strain on most relationships in the early days. I’d want to wait a little longer for the honeymoon period of the relationship to settle down to allow us to come through some challenges unscathed before I took on that one. 34 isn’t that old that you can’t wait a little while!

I would get the house sorted first. Not because you don't know your own mind but I think I'd want some sort of "commitment", and it'll give you a good practise of getting through something really stressful 😂
If you both still want one, you know what they say about new house, new baby 😉

Absolutely not nuts at all! Different timings are right for different people. I got back in touch with my highschool boyfriend in the July, left my husband in the September (all extremely amicable and we’re still good friends), moved in with boyfriend in October, pregnant by April, divorced in August then gave birth to DS in December and married the following December. I wouldn’t change a thing, married to the love of my life and have the most gorgeous little boy.

Feels a bit soon for your existing child, surely?

Dunno, isn't it kind of easy to love each other dearly when you've not even been together a year and haven't (as far as I can see from your post) gone through anything particularly testing, just honeymoon period stuff?

Plus if you're relieved to be out of the previous relationship and/or that had been difficult etc for a while that could be skewing your assessment of this one and making the new one seem much better than it might actually feel in a year once it's settled down.

I don't think you're nuts, just a bit naive / idealistic perhaps. But I don't know you.

I think it sounds like the past year has involved a lot of upheaval for your child, I’d be inclined to let things settle and make sure they feel secure before disrupting things even Moreno

34 isn't old.

You are still in the honeymoon period.

See where you are at in another year???

No OP I don’t think you’re nuts.

Having TTC at the age of 21 & finally giving birth 5 months before my 40th birthday, I wholeheartedly say ‘Sieze the moment’ now.

Also to add, I started living with my boyfriend and a mortgage at the age of 19 and we have survived to tell the tale!

It might be a good idea to get your divorce finalised first...

34 isn't old it isn't BUT 34 in a years time is 35. Two years of trying before you can be referred for fertility services amis 36. Tests and another year of trying is 37 but could easily be 38 or 39 etc.

I got married at 31, conceived my first at 33 so tow years of trying and now at 37 I'm still trying for no2, 18 months in of trying

Thank you all so much for your replies! It’s great to see a mix of opinions.

I notice a couple of you saying that we probably haven’t been through anything testing yet and just the honeymoon period.

We have! Massively!
A few months after we got together, I had surgery, the surgery went massively wrong. I had major complications. Had to hve a further 4 surgeries and a skin graft and stayed in hospital for almost 3 weeks. I contracted sepsis. I was in a ward with best sick people. Let’s just say my fate could’ve been completely different. I came out of that hospital a new woman with a new appreciation for life. So I totally believe in seizing the moment 💗💗.

I think that’s why I fee so passionately about this?