Reading a friends text messages to find out if she’s slagging you off?

[cashmerebat]

And it turns out she is.

AIBU to think stabbing a friend in the back is worse?

How did you come across friends messages?

Massive invasion of privacy on your part and a seriously unacceptable thing to do, even if she is a bitch.

Why are you friends? You both clearly hate each other

I think both sides are being unreasonable.

How did you come to read her messages?

What did she say?

You’re as bad as each other really.

You’re not friends.

Wow that is the most childish thing to do. I wouldn’t have done at at 15 never mind as an adult.

You. Read. Her. Messages.

Like a creepy jealous stalker boyfriend.

Wtaf?!

Are you friends within a larger group of friends? Is this game of 'which was worse' necessary so you can hold onto the group?

i have done it, i had massive suspicions that she was shit stirring within my friendship group ( there was 4 of us)
telling me one thing, another friend the exact opposite of what she was telling me and just generally bitching about me with the 3rd
end result was we were/are no longer friends, ive backed off from no3 whos more an acquaintance now and me and friend 2 became very close ( although that didnt last long as it turned out she was an ever bigger backstabbing lying psycho
bitch and i dont say that lightly!!)

Know you now I would let the friendship wither.
Think very carefully next time about the ethics of privacy. You have clearly breached them this time.

Why does it have to be a competiton which was worse? Both parties (whichever one you are) have behaved badly and under the circumstances are probably best letting the friendship go until you can both grow up a bit.

This is where the saying "A little bit of knowledge is a dangerous thing" comes into play.
I can understand you're angry, but what are you going to say.
" I was snooping on your phone, and found out you were slagging me off.

What ever she was saying about you, she was right wasn't she?

A little LEARNING is a dangerous thing

No wonder she’s slaying you off of you are so low you will go through her phone and read her messages

My sister went through my text messages. It's not on really. I think the whole slagging off thing needs to be taken into context. We all need some light relief from annoying shit going on so is it slagging off or venting? 🤷🏼‍♀️

My ‘friend’ tried to read my messages to find out if I was seeing a man she’d had her eye on. I’d met him through work but didn’t realise she’d seen him in the pub a few times, she’d chatted to him a bit but then it got a bit stalkerish when she started driving past his house (in a different town) and following him on nights out.

I’d told her I’d met someone I liked, one night out we realised it was the same person, I told him it couldn’t happen and that was that. She clearly didn’t believe me as I caught her going through my phone one evening when I’d gone to the toilet. I haven’t spoken to her since and I’ve been married to said man for 3 years now.

It’s unforgivable to go through someone’s phone. Whatever the reason.

I think most people “slag off” their friends once in a while. It’s quite normal. Me & DH love a good bitch about our circle 😂😂

What you did was way out of what is considered acceptable. You have no right rooting through her private discussions.

If this was a legal trial you would not be able to use any of your gathered “evidence” because of the totally unethical way in which is was obtained.

You clearly deserve to be slagged off. Don't go through people's phones, it's fucking rude.

Your dispicable and your ‘friend’ is insincere. You deserve each other.

You’re*

What’s the point of this friendship? Time to call it day tbh, neither of you actually like each other.

A day*