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AIBU?

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Should I correct them or just leave it?

16 replies

JimCricket · 11/02/2019 17:50

So not to drip feed here’s the whole story

I got a call asking me to collect DS (9) from school as he had hit his head twice. When I arrived to collect him I could see was white & quite badly shaken by the incident so I wanted to get him out ASAP to get him checked over by a doctor.

I was presented with a piece of paper to sign and I was told he collided with another pupil and fell over backwards. I glanced at the writing on the form and and it said that the child (my DS) had been chasing another pupil and that pupil had put their hands out to deflect them from colliding. More or less it read that it was my DS’s fault. I didn’t think too much of at the time as I was in a panic and I knew he wasn’t in any trouble or anything.

As soon as I got my child to the car he was grumbling because that wasn’t actually what happened at all. He said he has been playing chase or tig with his best friend, while he was chasing him another pupil ran in front of him and pushed him backwards. With the speed he was going and the force of the unexpected push he fell over backwards, hitting his head that hard that it bounced and he hit it the twice. So it was quite a nasty fall. He cuts on the back of his head and his eye is swollen up. I took him to GP and they sent us on to A&E because DS was feeling sick and nauseous.

Just discharged from the hospital as they want to keep him in to observe him but thankfully he is ok and to rest quietly over the next few days. The Dr said he was lucky he didn’t hit concrete.

So I guess my AIBU is should I correct the school on the form as I can’t help feeling annoyed as it was made out to be his own fault when it wasn’t, or should I just leave it as I don’t think it was malicious just the pupil not fully understanding the consequences of their actions. He is the same age but has mild SEN.

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Stressedout10 · 11/02/2019 17:54

Correct them asap he could of been seriously hurt the other child needs told

LIZS · 11/02/2019 17:55

Does it make any material difference to the outcome? Hope he feels better soon.

Drogosnextwife · 11/02/2019 17:55

Aw your poor DS! I hope he is ok now. That must have been painful.
I don't think I would correct them but tbh I let far too many things go that happen at school as u don't want to annoy the teachers and think what's done is done. Does your ds think that the boy pushed him on purpose?

Theknacktoflying · 11/02/2019 17:58

I would ... just have a word/e-mail the person who filled in the accident form - the school need to have their facts straight.

Theknacktoflying · 11/02/2019 18:00

Surely the fact that it is as serious as concussion and required a visit to the A&E department - they should be put straight and told to keep an eye on him

Smoggle · 11/02/2019 18:03

It sounds like a very minor difference in spin on the story. Child A says child B ran into them, child B says the opposite, one says it was deliberate, the other an accident.

Unless an adult witnessed it then the school aren't going to find out either way.

kitkatsky · 11/02/2019 18:08

I would prob tell them, but not in a way that lays blame on them getting it wrong. Just sth along the lines of "understand it must be stressful when a child gets hurt and you have two sides of story to represent on accident form, but just wanted to let you know what DS tole me in case there is some slightly risky games going on for you to keep an eye"

Drogosnextwife · 11/02/2019 18:12

I didn't mean, you don't want to annoy the teachers, it was supposed to say I don't want to annoy the teachers.

JimCricket · 11/02/2019 18:13

I know it isn’t going change the outcome and I’m probably just being sensitive.

School said A chased B, deliberately trying to collide with B. B was afraid of being hurt in the collision so put his hand out to deflect collision.

What actually happened as A was chasing C (no intention of colliding with him), B ran out in front of A unexpectedly but deliberately and pushed A to slow him down. I think it’s just horseplay went wrong.

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JimCricket · 11/02/2019 18:16

Thanks for advice everyone 💐 🤗

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Handsfull13 · 11/02/2019 18:17

I'd get them to correct it. Between those two different stories from the first one it's a trip to the doctors but the second I'd have gone straight to a&e. If anything it might get the school to be more thorough in finding out what happened.

PixieBigShoes · 11/02/2019 18:20

I think you should go back and try and get a scan.

Mmmhmmm · 11/02/2019 18:21

I'd also get them to correct it.

Smoggle · 11/02/2019 18:21

You say "what actually happened" but it's "what my child says" vs "what the other child says".
You could ask the school to 'correct' the form to "Alfie says Oliver ran into him but Oliver says Alfie pushed him".

Yougotdis · 11/02/2019 18:42

I would ask to chat about it as your concerned that the version of events your son is giving doesn’t match what your son says. Ask them to investigate a bit further

Ohnonotuagain · 11/02/2019 18:54

I would correct them so they can amend the accident book and so it's on record in case a similar event occurs involving the same children.

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