Is my son immature

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My son is 7 and a half (year 3). He's having alot of friendship troubles, he just doesn't seem to be accepted by anybody.

Teacher says today that he doesn't help his situation because he says things that make the others laugh at him. Such as he made a wish that he had wings and could fly, and he said to me quite a few times the next morning he thought he could feel wings growing on his back. He's said this to his mates at school :-/ it's made me feel really sad because I love the fact that he still thinks some things are real. He is quite grown up in other ways tho. He doesn't come across as babyish at all. We took the kids to disneyworld 6 months ago and the magic was still there for him and we loved it.
Should we be encouraging him to grow up and stop all that?

I think he's sounds like a lovely boy, and 7 is still a young age- though I wouldn't expect a 7 year old to be as gullible as to think wings are growing on his back.

I'm 20 and I'd like to fly!

He is 7! When I was similar age I convinced myself I could fly.

A trip to A&E decided otherwise. He has a great imagination and sounds lovely.

Your son sounds like he has a brilliant, creative imagination. If he's struggling to connect with the children at school, how about trying him at a club or activity where the other children might be more like minded, maybe a drama club?

Performing Arts club, writing club, Beavers/Cubs... try one! I bet he'd fit right in :D

Many, many 7 year olds believe in Father Christmas. Growing wings is a lot more logical than that and there is plenty of mythology and imagery (angels etc) to back up the idea. I dont think you need stamp on his imagination just yet.

My DM is a retired infant school teacher. 39 years teaching kids from age 4-7/8 and she is convinced that the magic and sparkle starts to leave children at around the primary three stage. She doesn’t know why but the innocence starts to fade then. With her years of experience I’d trust her on it. It could be that your boy is hanging onto that magic which is lovely because once it’s lost it’s lost.

OP my DS1 is year 3 as well, he's nearly 8. In some ways he's not immature but in others he is. I often worry about exactly this kind of thing.

He doesn't really seem to have any close friends and often comes home from school saying people are being mean to him. Sometimes I can't tell whether it's just his perception or whether they actually are. Some of them seem very grown up in comparison. He will still have a strop if things don't go his way and he doesn't seem to realise that not everyone is against him. We have spoken to his teacher who is keeping an eye on him - I've often wondered if my DS has ADHD or some sort of processing issues. His teacher just thinks he's emotionally immature. He's also a lot smaller than lots of the others, which doesn't help!

However, my own mum-worries aside, I deal with lots of them who are this age (I'm involved in a youth sport) and I do think they all just mature at different rates. The maturity 'gap' between the oldest and youngest in our team (who are all year 3) is staggering.

My son is in year 3 also and seems to be growing up to quickly. It's all computer games and iPads these days. He got laughed at at Christmas because he wanted some power ranger toys, I still bought him some and he does play with them.

A lot of his friends play football and play for a team whilst my son goes to beavers and is quite a bit quieter. He likes to go to the big football and rugby matches but not play the sport. My other son is 6 and has quite a good imagination but I can definitely see the difference between them even though there's only 15 months between them.