to warn him over text? Impending break up.

[Deeby]

I'm staying at a friend's at the moment. I'm going to leave DP and he doesn't know. I'm here with my young child. He keeps texting saying 'looking forward to seeing you both again', 'glad you'll be back soon' and I don't know what to say.

I feel incredibly guilty and don't know what to do. Deep down I know it would be cruel to mention anything now whilst I can't speak to him face to face. Also feel like I can't keep avoiding his messages. We have family celebrations this week so don't want to just up and leave (christening and mums 60th).

Should I speak to him on the phone? I can't keep pretending. What do I do?

I would have someone with me there when telling him.

Unless you have genuine reason to believe he will react violently then this seems a little unfair on him. Having someone you love break up with you is a horrible experience and can lead to some undignified outpouring of grief (my experience). The last think I would want is my partner's mate stood there as a spectator to my upset.

Take care. Do what feels right to you, if you like do it and ask a friend to come over at a time so you can't get stuck into a long conversation where he persuades you to stay. You say your piece, have your bags ready, and leave.

I think you need to be honest, and I'm surprised he has no clue.

I'd text back and say, look, we both know this isn't working, on Wednesday I am coming to discuss it.

However I'd consider carefully what you're doing here. Are you leaving or just playing a game and firing a warning shot and want him to talk you into staying by promising it will be different? As in are you just creating leverage, because if you are it seldom works long term.