I know IABU. DD has bought her first proper bf home. She’s 17, him 18. Apparently they have been together since around Xmas time (her best friend blurts this information out) but i get the impression he isn’t totally into it. The trouble is she is. This has just flung me back to my first bf age 16. We were together for 2 years, I was absolutely besotted, he treated me like absolute crap. I am still wounded by him today. I have no feelings in regards to him, just the memories of the lies, cheating and embarrassment. I have tried to slip things into the conversation with her about knowing your worth, how you should be treated etc. Obviously I’ve had the usual teenage response of it’s nothing to do with me. She’s right, it isn’t. I really don’t want her to be thinking about a shitty relationship 25 years down the line. Just so you get the full picture; she messages him, he hardly responds, he will only see her if he gets a lift from a mate (very rarely), even though he only lives a 15 minute walk away, never took her on a proper date. He can’t drive, doesn’t have a part time job, no money, no ambition and possibly a bit of an unstable home life. All this is the polar opposite to my DD and her life. So do I just shut my mouth, stop overthinking my past, stay out of it and hope he buggers off asap?