My sister was the favourite child which my parents have always made glaringly obvious. However now they've passed this on to the grandchildren..
My DS was the first grandchild and they were pretty full on at the start which I accepted as their excitement and welcomed them to build a strong relationship with him but now that my sister has had a baby and he's hit the terrible twos they don't seem to give a shit anymore.
Every minor thing he does is followed with eye rolling at each other and huffing because I don't agree with their approach to discipline. He also has extremely poor hearing and very limited speech as a result. Awaiting surgery for this.
Explaining right and wrong to him is a little more challenging but I definitely don't let him run wild and do whatever he wants.
For the first time in over a year they offered to watch both dc this weekend for 2 hours so that DH and I could go out for breakfast and have a decent conversation for once. Unsurprisingly they bailed and we're both suddenly at deaths door, unable to see dc in case they passed anything on.
I was sceptical but thought ok, m shit happens and fair enough they told me so as to not pass anything on to dc.
I told them I hope they feel better and to rest up, let us know if they need anything etc. And found out through another source that they were babysitting for my sister that afternoon which they failed to mention.
I just feel so bad for my dc that one day they will be old enough to notice the different treatment between cousins and I'm so worried about how it will make them feel because it's certainly made me feel really shit over the years.
Given that they're grandparents I hope they won't be that bothered but it's hard to say.
I feel like we've got no choice but to distance ourselves from them now and focus on the wonderful relationship dc have with my in laws.
AIBU for doing so?
Would you feel the same?