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To think Fluy OH should stay away from us

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OhNoess · 10/02/2019 14:40

OH has what he thinks is flu, the toddler also has it and they’re both feeling pretty rotten.

OH spent Friday in bed, but has been up and down since, I do genuinely think he’s quite unwell, but honestly, a few years back when we all had flu we weren’t well enough to want to watch TV, play computer games or eat more than a tiny amount. Anyway, he’s feeling rotten and so is useless, I know that is harsh, but to be fair, it’s tough with two kids plus an ill toddler, he’s no help, so he might as well go to bloody bed and stay out of the way. He’s coughing a fair bit, I know it’s likely we’re all going to catch it now that the little one has it, but the toddler isn’t really coughing or sneezing, just fever, tired, tearful and doesn’t want to be put down.

Anyway I went to make lunch for my DD and she was entertaining the baby in the living room, he’s really not happy, but she was doing a really nice job of distracting him. From the kitchen I could hear OH telling her to stay away from him, that this bug is awful and she doesn’t want to catch it, Etc. but he was being a bit harsh with her.
This annoyed me so much – yes he’s ill, but he’s doing jack all to help, sitting across the room from the toddler feeling sorry for himself, coughing, whereas she, a 6 year old, is keeping the baby happy while I make food for her. So I shouted “You’re the one that’s coughing all over the place! She’s keeping him happy while I make lunch”. So then he sulked off upstairs, to either go to bed or play on his computer, I haven’t checked.

Now I feel a bit harsh because sometimes you can feel bloody rotten but want a break from lying in bed and I know the bed hurts his back…
But also I’m annoyed, I know we’ll likely all catch it but I’d like to delay that as much as possible, when I get it, I won’t get to spend the day in bed, I’ll still have to do the school runs on my own and look after the toddler and feed us all.

So am I being unreasonable to think he should keep his germy self away from us or was I a bitch for insensitively suggesting so?

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Hoplittlebunnies · 10/02/2019 14:47

I think the fact that he has plonked himself down in a communal area and is telling a small child to stay away from him incase she catches his illness is really bloody selfish tbh.

CircleofWillis · 10/02/2019 14:52

He is telling the small child to stay away from the baby while he is sitting there spreading germs. I would ask him to stay upstairs out of the was until his coughing sneezing phase is over. I would also suggest he washes his hands and uses plenty of antibac. It is annoying when someone is too ill to help but well enough to do all the entertaining stuff. Sounds like a bad cold rather than flu to me. The two times I have had flu I wouldn’t have passed the £50 test.

OhNoess · 10/02/2019 15:18

Thanks, didn't think I WBU but felt a bit mean afterwards. It's no doubt too late now anyway, but still.

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Geminijes · 10/02/2019 15:24

YWNBU.

If he was that bothered about your 6 old catching the bug then he should have entertained the toddler.

Merryoldgoat · 10/02/2019 15:35

What’s the £50 test?

OhNoess · 10/02/2019 16:00

@Merryoldgoat If they're well enough to pick up £50 from the floor, it's not really flu!

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Merryoldgoat · 10/02/2019 18:58

Ah! Excellent Grin

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