To have anxiety about DPs trip

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I’ve been with DP for 7 years. We have 2 dc (3,5). I’m a SAHM and he has a business from home so we’re both home most days. I got pregnant whilst we were dating and it was hard for him to accept. During that time he cheated multiple times and was horrible to me but I stayed. (Don’t need a lecture about that) Anyway, once he cheated when away on a business trip. Since DD was about 6 months I’m 99% sure he’s been faithful and we’re now engaged.

He’s going on a 3 day business trip in two weeks. First one since DD birth.

I’m overehelmed with anxiety. I’m sick thinking he’s going to cheat. He gets angry when I bring it up but I don’t want him going. Plus it’s difficult on the kids and me as I’m dealing with some MH issues right now. AIBU to tell him he can’t go on trip?

You would be unreasonable to tell him he can't go.

You are not unreasonable for being anxious about him going and not being able to trust him. I wouldn't want him to go either, but you shouldn't tell him not to go

If it's for work, is it really even an option for him to not go?

I don't blame you for being worried, given his past behavior (though maybe the circumstances have changed enough that there's less of a risk, now, of a repeat), but you if you can't even discuss it with him without him getting angry... that's not good. He needs to be completely open about the whole situation-- acknowledging his past infidelity and being proactive about avoiding temptation in the future. It sounds like he'd rather just pretend it never happened...

If you can't even talk about this together, I don't see how you can tell him he "can't" go on the trip.