Obliged to invite idiots

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Nodrama999 · 09/02/2019 17:16

I just posted this in weddings but I’ve moved it here.
This may come across as a bit bitchy, thing is I’m annoyed that we are having to invite peoples other halves, one causes trouble and cannot seem to contain themselves. (Goes around family, stirring and causing arguments) and the other has “anxiety” so she always ends up centre of attention with her “needs” due to it (I would have thought someone with anxiety wouldn’t want to attract attention to be honest).
We have aimed for a smallish wedding to try and keep it simple, we just want to have a good time with friend s and family, but these two individuals seem to cause a scene everytime.
We discussed it and agreed that we will invite them but we will tell our friends to keep them tame and if they can’t then they will have to leave.
It’s really annoying me that I feel like we are having to invite people to avoid 1. Upsetting our friends, 2. Obliged due to etiquette.
The friends are old mutual friends and are groomsmen so we can’t not invite the couples.
AIBU?

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thecatsthecats · 09/02/2019 17:55

You'll be told you aren't kind, but fuck it, I agree.

Sometimes other people's other people are an unnecessary chore.

BasinHaircut · 09/02/2019 17:57

Well I wouldn’t tell thier partners that if they don’t behave they have to leave, or risk them never speaking to you again.

I get where you are coming from but you either invite them or you don’t, you can’t put conditions on it

Mosaic123 · 09/02/2019 18:00

If you have a table plan think carefully about where you put them. As far away as you can in the answer.

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Nodrama999 · 09/02/2019 21:37

I put conditions on my children going to parties and if they are going to behave like children, I don’t see why they should be exempt 😂

I’ve also put them in the back corner, far away.

The individuals in particular have caused a massive rift in our group of friends for their behaviour. In fact our family even asked if one was going to be invited at all as they have caused some serious problems in the past with their antics

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FredFlinstoneMadeOfBones · 09/02/2019 21:58

I think if it was just people you didn't gel with well you'd a bit bitchy but they both sound bloody annoying attention seekers so I can definitely see why you don't want them there. I don't have a solution but can see why you wanted a rant.

FredFlinstoneMadeOfBones · 09/02/2019 22:00

To be fair for most people the condition of not behaving like a twat and making a scene at the wedding doesn't need to be said.

Livelovebehappy · 09/02/2019 22:02

In an ideal world we would all be able to invite who the hell we wanted to our wedding, but unfortunately it’s not that simple. Of the people who came to my wedding, I only actually liked half of them. And most of the 50% I disliked were family who we felt obliged to invite. Problem was my parents paid for it so the guest list was pretty much dictated by them. I would do it so much differently if I did it again.

Lemoneeza · 09/02/2019 22:06

I didn't invite people that had form for being a twatty guest. it was a little sparse I suppose but we could relax and enjoy ourselves.

theworldistoosmall · 09/02/2019 22:08

I just wouldn't invite them. Yes you will be asked but I would be honest and tell them why. So what if they never talk to you again, not like you would have lost good, close mates.
Life is too short to be around tossers.

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Nodrama999 · 10/02/2019 08:08

Thanks everyone! Your reassurance has helped a lot 😊

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sagradafamiliar · 10/02/2019 08:41

Invite who you want. Be friends with who you want. Why suffer idiots on any day let alone your wedding day?

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