Aibu to take offence at this?

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Chatting to my DP of a year today and I said I wanted to be something and he said you can’t youre too fat. For reference, I am a bit overweight but not huge. A size 14 mostly.

I said oh you do think I’m fat don’t you and he said you do need to lose some weight, I’m just worried about your health. He said a similar thing 6 months ago.

He is severely overweight but has previously gone out with girls who are very fit, lots of makeup etc, don’t let him see them without it and so on. I’m not into always dolling up for him. It’s all just left me quite fed up but more than that I do feel he is awfully shallow.

He sounds charming. Not.

I saw a series on becoming an astronaut last year, and while I am too fat to be an astronaut (I’m bigger than you, OP), the other requirements are so stringent I’d be disqualified on a number of other counts anyway.

It helps a lot when you stop considering men you haven't be seeing for very long a boyfriend rather than a 'DP'. It helps you see that you don't owe him a thing. He's a twat. You'd be a fool to take him back.

So he’s rude, overweight, and a hypocrite!!

He is terrible for your self-esteem.
You need someone to be support and lift you up, not tear you down.
Do not go back.

He didn't really say sorry though, did he and you said yourself the relationship wasn't really working. You deserve better!

He wants to erode your self-esteem. Bit by bit he’ll make you feel worse and worse about yourself.

How many compliments does he pay you? What nice things does he do? How does he make you feel nice?

I’m ACTUALLY fat. My husband has never used it against me. He tells me how lovely, kind and pretty I am and that he’s lucky to have me.

I told him that I thought I’d have been a good Secret Agent the other day and he humoured me as it was clearly a fun joke. Even if you’d said you were planning to go into modelling his response was a douchey one.

Most people aren’t fit enough to go into space. If he really had to correct you he could have just said you need to be super fit to go into space rather than you’re too fat. Really though he could have just let the comment go and not be a twat.

It’s natural to feel sad when things end (even bad things) but really what would you be going back to if you accepted his apology.
If it’s not working then give yourself the chance to find someone who it does work with.