Aibu to just ban MIL from coming to my wedding at this point

[theonerealdiva22]

So you may have seen My Other post on MIL complaining about my DJ (I've just been to a wedding he was djing at and he was so fun I've never had a dj dance with the crowd he was guiding everyone in all the hussle songs as well as proud Mary). Where MIL wanted my BIL who made homophobic comments about my lifelong best friend and refused to show any regret to dj. well I'm thinking of full on banning her at this point and so is DH (he said to her the other day that if she won't f**k up about the thing I'm about to mention she's not coming).
So Yeah DH's parents are divorced. And it was a bad divorce. FIL and step MiL are Invited since we get along with them and and So do a lot of the guests. Anyway MIL is complaining about this and saying they shouldn't be invited. Just so you know DH was raised mainly by his dad he went to his mum's every other weekend after the divorce so he's closer with his dad. Now when we told MIL about the wedding we told her about this and she acted like it was fine. Now she's whining.
AIBU to uninvite MIL who DH dislikes and I hate as do most of the guests. She'd just ruin the day by starting a row (she's ruined other occasions this way)

I read your other post, and I firmly believe this woman should NOT be allowed at your wedding. I think she will do everything possible to ruin your day. She sounds like a total nightmare.

Uninvite right now!

She may turn up regardless.

If you are banning her though, ban the bil too if you haven't. He sounds like a right twat.

I've not read your other thread, based only on what you've written here, uninvited her. You don't want her there, her son doesn't want her, even if she does behave you'll spend all evening waiting for her to kick off. Just tell her she's not welcome. She sounds awful.

God yeah, ban MIL and BIL, pair of horrible twunts. Good on your future DH for not taking his mum's side!

I think it's rude to uninvite people usually

Not sure why you invited her in the first plae.

Any chance of her declining & making the decision for you?

Having read your other post and now this i’d Agree; I wouldn’t want her there

Your using the word 'my' is inappropriate here and it is not your decision. Your DH-to-be gets to decide what to do about his awful mum and homophobic brother. If DH wants them there then you don't whine about it or pressure him into banning them for your sake. If he doesn't want them there it's his call. You'll both only be doing this once, hopefully. Neither of you should be starting married life regretting that they allowed their new spouse to drive a wedge between them and a family member.

Most definitely ban the pair of them, I wouldn't have bil there either.
If he can't be nice he shouldn't be there.

sounds like mil and bil need taking off the guest list i think they have the attitude where theyll find fault with everything long as you have fil and step mil there i think that suffices

If she’s ruined other occasions, then yes, why would you want her there to ruin your wedding? Alternatively if you do decide to have her, you need to appoint a few burly friends as bouncers to ward of her and your bil.

I remember your other thread, your MIL is batshit and I’d happily disinvite her in your shoes (provided your fiancé agrees, but it sounds like he doesn’t much like her anyway)

If MIL (& BIL) is going to be dis-invited I think her DS should do it. Support your DF but don't put yourself in the firing line.

Link to previous thread? She sounds like a battleaxe but previous thread may help form a more robust opinion.

Can you link the other thread please?

Your wedding, your decision. Do what you and your to be dh want to do, don’t do what you might feel pressured to do. It’s your day and no one else’s. From what you’ve said I think you’re justified.

She'd probably be relieved to be disinvited considering you have decided to make your wedding a rave to specialised music and not really considered that not everyone likes such music and definitely wouldn't be comfortable with a DJ trying to interfere with their dancing.

Your DP's mother, his decision

She sounds a nightmare .

You don't need that. Just tell her she's not invited and make sure you have someone on the door, in case she turns up and tries to cause trouble.

She sounds awful and she shouldn't be given the opportunity to ruin your special day. BUT it should be your DP's call.

I would get them both together and let your dp state for the record, they behave for one day or they will be asked to leave and you really don't want to put them through the embarrassment of being removed. They won't like it but follow through of needs be. I did the same to my dad and briefed the ushers to keep an eye and ear out. He behaved.