OH asshole or overreacting?

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I’m seething right now ladies. Mine and my partners relationship has been very rocky as of late and what’s just happened is the icing on the cake for me.
He was meant to be taking our 18 month old up his mums at 11. So he could nap up there and I could get some jobs done and time to myself for the first time since he’s been born. It got to 11:40 and OH still hadn’t come in form the garage and DS is screaming his he’s head off because he’s tired. So I just thought sod it he’s napping here, I cba with the hassle of sorting DS stuff out whilst he’s screaming ect.
OH comes in 10 mins ago and instantly gets annoyed that I’ve put DS down for a nap and starts saying well I’ll take him up there now anyway, ermmmmm no you won’t hes sleeping! Anyway he say I should have gone outside to tell him DS was tired.......even though I’d been asking him for half an hour when he was taking him out. Rant over. AIBU?

I'd have just let him take the baby asleep! But I can see why you are annoyed

He can take him after the nap and you get longer to do your "me" time?

He had no intention of taking the baby out. He purposely avoided coming in from the garage. And now he’s all mock-offended that it’s too late (which he knew it would be). Twat.

On it's own , a bit annoying but when you say you haven't had any time in 18 months, it kind of looks like he isn't doing his fair share of parenting at all? If that's the case yanbu.

I'd have gone out and told him that the baby needed a nap amd so if he wants to take him, he needs to leave now.

If your not in charge of children, you don't get that their routine needs to be followed. "In a minute" doesn't work, a lot of Men like "in a minute".

Why couldn't he take him whilst asleep or later?

I would have taken the screaming child out to him at 11am, handed over and walked away.

I suspect this is a symptom of a much bigger problem.

Also, what was he doing in the garage?

Why didn't you go and tell him to take DS at 10.45?

Anyway that time has passed now and DS is asleep, Can he take DS when he wakes to his mums? Then she can play with him when he is awake which will be nicer for both of them.

You can have time then, but you should be having time to yourself not to do jobs . Especially as you haven't had anytime before this and DS is 18 mths.

I would have brought the baby to him in the garage. Can't he take DS after his nap?

Alternatively you go out now and leave DP to look after DS for the afternoon go for a nice peaceful lunch or meet friends you deserve some time to yourself.

DP can look after DS and Grandma can come and see him if she wants.

He’s taking him when he wakes up so he can watch the football up there and his mum can look after him.
It just annoys me because he does little things like this all the time and this time it’s just pushed me over the edge.
He always puts himself in front of DS. It is a symptom of a much larger problem yes.
Thanks for telling me I’m not being mad.

Sounds like he’s got a lovely relaxing afternoon ahead of him after his lovely relaxing morning.
OP are you planning on ending things?

@downtonCrabby been thinking about it for a while tbh!

He had no intention of taking the baby out. He purposely avoided coming in from the garage. And now he’s all mock-offended that it’s too late (which he knew it would be). Twat.

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