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To want to put my ex in his place regarding his continual bragging about the assets he's accumulated through his 'ill gotten gains'?

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Cantbeattheeightiesmusic · 09/02/2019 11:46

A few years after my ex (deadbeat father to my DD"s) and I parted, he started working for a 'sales' company, which has enabled him to earn extra money 'on the side' by selling his own items too. (Won't go into detail as I'd probably out myself)

Because of his extra sideline, which the tax man clearly knows nothing about, (I know this because the child maintenance calculation is based solely on his official earnings) my ex is making probably double the amount he's declaring.
That's his look out, but I'm so pissed off that he constantly brags about the new house he's renovating and the next foreign holiday he's planning, or the next top of the range car he's buying, and yet continually looks down on me and takes the piss because I live on a council estate.

There's nothing wrong with living on a council estate! but I'm livid that he's only got what he has because he's a bloody crook by comitting tax evasion! , yet he thinks it's acceptable to try and degrade me for where I live, even though I'm an honest, hard worker who is bringing his children up with fuck all help from him!

Rant over!!!!!

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flameycakes · 09/02/2019 11:47

I really wouldn't cause trouble for yourself x

Cantbeattheeightiesmusic · 09/02/2019 12:34

Weezol thanks, but from what I hear and what I've read on here, it seems that HMRC often don't take any interest in reports.
A relative of mine reported someone for tax evasion (and gave plenty of evidence) a number of years back, but nothing was done she says.

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Lonecatwithkitten · 09/02/2019 12:36

Your children as they grow will see you working hard and giving them a loving home and will realise who has the better values.

Cantbeattheeightiesmusic · 09/02/2019 13:55

Thanks Lonecat.
It's just difficult sometimes watching my ex splash out on himself (and his new family) but doesn't even ask if our girls need a bloody pencil case,for example, for school.

Apparently his 'generous' maintenance of £66.00 a week is a sufficient amount from him Hmm, and that 'it is more than enough to help raise kids on' . I think he actually believes he's giving it as a gift, and not that he legally has to!

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AdoreTheBeach · 10/02/2019 02:05

Please do report. Just because you know someone who reported someone and nothing happened does not mean all reports are not actioned. We know someone who for many, many years evaded tax and was reported, investigated fined and jailed.

If the company your ex works for allows this systemic tax evasion, hmrc will want to know about it.

adrienneJ · 10/02/2019 02:12

Well she's not doing kids any favours by getting anyone jailed is she? Prob not getting as much as he says sounds like he likes to wind you up more than anything else so take with pinch of salt

Cantbeattheeightiesmusic · 10/02/2019 09:53

Adorethebeach
I can't deny it's crossed my mind to drop him in the shit.
adrienne
I'm not taking anything he says with a pimcb of salt though, I don't need to, as I can see for myself that he's living a lifestyle that he would not be able to afford on his wages.

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