I went vvvvv low contact with this relative a few years ago because their behaviour was appalling. As soon as I went very low contact, they started, for the first time, buying presents for my dc. I didn't pass the presents on, I donated them to charity. This has been almost the only contact we have had in the last few years.
Now this relative has bought a subscription to a monthly magazine for one of the dc which will be delivered to our house every month without asking me. I am so so so angry, I feel invaded, I feel .... just icky.
They had been abusive when I was a child - which I had moved on from as they had said sorry, but they then started up again after I had dc. Though really, they never stopped, I just didn't see them much or engage until I had dc and they said sorry. And then deteriorated again.
If I stop contact completely or tell them to FO they will cause more trouble.
AIBU feeling our space has been invaded. And what can I do about it.