Is anyone else lonely?

[Tellyaddict1]

I'm not looking for sympathy or suggestions, I just wondered if I'm maybe not the only person in the world who feels like this?

I'm married with children, I work and I'm busy most of the time, but I'm very lonely. I'm rarely alone, but I am alone iyswim?

I have a broken family with lots of issues and nobody really likes each other. Family only get in touch when they want something, there's always a drama and someone arguing and I don't cope with it.

I work with nice people in the type of job where I'm always around people, but get the distinct feeling I'm not very well liked.

Friends have come and gone, I can't make new ones, the few times I've tried to reach out nothing comes of it, people avoid me.

I hate sounding all woe is me and nobody likes me, but in my case, it is true. Dh even said to me once in a argument a few years ago, that no one likes me.

I don't think I'm going to change now at my age, I think I'm polite, kind, friendly, I can't do anymore.

I'm not too bothered as I just get on with it, my life's not bad, I've got a nice home, lovely children, a good job, a decent husband, it's just at times when you ring someone who means a lot to you for a chat, and they make an excuse or worse are rude (which is what has just happened), it does sting.

You're not alone. I could have written most of what you've put. I'm not sure what the answer is though.

I think for many of us, at some point in our lives we feel a sense of loneliness. That doesn't necessarily mean we are lonely. It just be a feeling of isolation or 'difference' from the general crowd.

You might have a good social life, be popular with colleagues, have a reasonable number of friends and one or two very close ones and STILL feel 'alone' internally. I think that's quite common. For some it might last a short while and for others it might actually be a lifelong feeling.

Maybe one mistake we might make is assuming that everybody else doesn't have similar thoughts sometimes. If nobody can really tell YOU feel that way, maybe you cannot tell that others feels the same too.

I absolutely knows quite a few people disillusioned with social media, and perhaps having some sort of mid-life re-evaluation (not crisis), when their careers suddenly don't seem quite the be all and end all (often accompanied by health scares for themselves or friends etc).

So in short, no, I don't think you're alone.

Excuse typos, using phone and just about to head out of the office but wanted to respond to your post first!

No, you're not alone. I have close family (mum, dad and sister) now but this hasn't always been the case. I'm divorced and when we separated everyone flocked to him as the 'fun' one (functioning alcoholic). I still see them sometimes but I'm never invited to anything and hear about fun gatherings second hand from DSs.

I have a partner who doesn't like to do anything with my DCs so it seems I live a split life - one with him and one with the DCs. And when I have time with the DCs it's just me and them which I like, but it would be good to have another adult around sometimes. I spend a lot of evenings at home alone after they've gone to bed. And with one away boarding in the week it's quit empty at home.

He doesn't like staying at mine so when there are no DC we stay there. I'm basically homesick at the moment!

But on the face of it, I have a nice life in a nice house with gorgeous children. But I'm just sick of doing it by myself! And I can't tell anyone any of this!