Advice regarding abortions please.

[mamaaalael]

I’m a new month to a 3 month old who I love more than anything, when I had her I obviously knew it was time to go onto contraception. As soon as Christmas was out of the way the doctors appointment was made.... for the end of January!!! (My doctors have recently merged and it’s impossible to get a appointment). Since having my daughter I’ve had sex once or twice where I already know I should of used protection. After being pregnant obviously my periods hadn’t started properly yet, I had one 31st January and nothing since so I did a test and it’s positive. INSTANTLY i knew I couldn’t have another baby, my baby is still a baby and other issues in my life it would make it impossible and to hard. I made an appointment at bpas for this Wednesday coming and I’d just like some information from people who have been through this thereselves. Will be being a new mum make a difference to what happens, what will happen on the day and after? Am I best to tell someone apart from my partner. Any sort of help please X

Being a new mum won’t make a difference to how you are treated, you are always treated with respect.

When I had mine, I was treated with far more compassion than when I miscarried years previously and sent away with a leaflet.

They can always help you with other contraception too.

Good luck whatever you choose :)

I don't have experience or useful advice for you, but didn't want you to feel alone with no replies. I hope you have some support! Massive hand hold and no judgement, best of luck.

If you’re only in the early weeks it will just be a matter of taking some medication OP. They may perform a scan first to determine how far along you are and (depending where you live) you might get to speak with a counselor.

If it’s the medication route then as far as I remember you’ll be given meds to take in front of the doctor and then given some more to take at home later. Later that day you will probably experience period pains and cramping along with bleeding.

There is no need to tell anyone besides your partner unless you want to - I never told a single soul (until now). In my case it wasn’t physically bad at all, just like a normal period. Best of luck to you

I had a surgical termination through BPAS a few years ago and I have to say that everyone was wonderful and lovely. They also fitted a coil at the same time which unfortunately I didn’t get on with but it was great that they could offer that service! When I had mine, they did a scan to confirm gestation, we talked through the options and did the procedure on the same day. I was there from about 8-1? Do you know at this stage whether you would prefer a medical or surgical termination?

Thankyou all so much for your messages, it’s nice to know I’m not the only one in the world for this to happen to. And (Hanwee Archer) by reading as much information as I have I feel I would prefer a medical termination.