Ex changing nappy AIBU

[Nameisthegame]

So me and my ex go out together with our young dd, we live in Spain and are some of the few English people so it’s nice having family time etc but! I can’t get him to change her nappy he never offers, it’s like pulling teeth. Last time I asked him to take her because she was screaming blue murder with me but fine with him.

He takes her to the bathroom I’m chatting to my friend then he comes back?!? Why...because the mens toilet has wee on the floor, (in my area most toilets are just little rooms not several cubicles so quite private and very few places have baby changing areas). The only thing I could think to say was that it’s not illegal to change her in the woman/disabled toilet?....was I being unreasonable?

I ended up changing her btw she can stand I change her nappy standing up when we are out.

Does he never have her overnight, or for extended periods when he has to change her?
And I don't think it unreasonable to suggest alternatives, if there isn't a baby changing area.

No he works a lot and neither of us can afford to move out at this point ( we share a flat different rooms etc) I can understand being wary of going into a ladies toilet when it’s a bunch of cubicles but if it’s a single room and also a disabled toilet I don’t understand the problem?

This weekend it happened again we’re at a table he’s blocked in by his friend and I’m blocked by the pram and the place is packed I asked him to change her and her just smiles weakly saying he’s stuck.

And men wonder why women won't let them have access.

I don’t think he would neglect her but I do worry about him having her alone sometimes. If he’s alone with her he sort of act the part but with me around I become like a nanny.

Starting to remember why he’s my ex. I have to ask him to bath her 😑 then he leaves the nappy on the floor, bath toys (sometimes water) in the bath and I end up dressing her too 😧 getting a bit bored I need to move out...

You're more patient than I am. The dirty nappy and wet toys would've been left smack in the middle of his clean bed if it were me.

I must be odd .i never felt either of us were taking the piss re changing nappies
It takes 2 mins, I don’t care

I get that you’re living together but can I ask when you split up if you’re going out with friends together that often?

Sorry that sounds really shitty!

Wet nappies or dirty? How old is baby?

I wouldn't be bothered about wet ones, it literally takes 2 seconds so it's not worth the argument. Dirty ones I think it is fair to take it in turns as its not a nice job.

I probably wouldn't frequent places which don't have baby changing meaning you have to change her on a pissy floor.

Also if the fact you have to ask him to bath the baby and he forgets to let the water out are such dealbreakers, I think you're being a bit ridiculous and you need to move out. How long does it take to say "can you bath baby please"? 6 seconds?

The dealbreaker was that he had sex with my best friend. We go out together every week maybe twice as there are only three other people who speak English in my area. My dd is 17 months now.