Locked baby in car, woman filming

[ShantyShack]

I've changed my name for this as it's very outing.

This afternoon I managed to accidentally lock my keys in the car with my 3 month old baby. I was too far away from home to get the spares. There were paramedics already in the car park who I asked for help and they advised me to contact the fire brigade. I called them and they arrived quickly and begun to try and get into the car. My DD was also with me but she waited in my friends car so was perfectly safe. As expected a fair number of people stopped to have a look. I was very upset as the baby was screaming and I found it quite distressing. I then noticed there was a woman filming me on her phone. I raised my hands as if to say "what are you doing" and she didn't stop. My friend went over and told her to stop and the paramedics actually moved the ambulance to block her view.

AIBU to be upset that the woman was filming what was obviously a horrible situation and to wonder what she hopes to achieve from it? I'm not on Facebook but we have a number of local "Community" boards so have asked friends to look out for her post. Can I then contact admin to get them to take it down? Surely if I can be identified in the video, she needs my permission to post anything?

People are assholes. I saw something on Facebook in recent weeks where a video was being shared of someone who lost their life in a car wreck on some motor way. Someone filmed it, but people had to be asked not to share it. What is wrong with people?

Oh gosh, how stressful. If it does pop up online (why???) have your friends put a reply up from you to the effect that the situation was being dealt with but she hindered matters considerably by not stopping filming when asked.

Some people are dicks who have no empathy, and just want to ride on your drama xxx

Sadly I don't think she needs your permission to post any footage but she's a horrible person for filming in the first place and even worse if she does post it.

Hope you're feeling better. It must have been a really upsetting time and could happen to any of us.

If she was taking a photo because the baby was screaming and nobody was around and she thought she needed some evidence to report it that might be justified but to film when the situation is clearly being dealt with by professionals as quickly as possible is just shit behaviour.

People are absolute morons. Einstein predicted humans would get stupider as technology advanced and how correct he was... Smart phones = dumb humans.

I’d grab the bloody phone- nosey cow!!!
Or actually I’d film her back!

People are twats! I hope you’re ok now. I can imagine it was distressing for you.

It seems to be any opportunity for people to film stuff and put it in social media as if to shame people. You can’t do anything now without fear of being put on Facebook for strangers to be judge, jury and executioner.

I'm not sure she would even have known there was a baby in the car.
If I do hear of it being posted online, I will reactivate my account just to have a go at her. She didn't seem in the slightest bit embarrassed when my friend went over and she stayed sat where she was, even after her view had been blocked, until the fire engine had gone.

How awful OP

Fabaunt the Irish police - Gardaí - had to request in the media that people do not share the footage you speak of.
Where is the humanity in some humans ?

If she's not sharing it then what is the point?! Is she going to look back on it every now and again and laugh at the silly woman who made a mistake! People are weird.

Everyone else was so lovely though. The paramedics stuck around, offering blankets and let the girls sit in the ambulance. There was a woman in the local cafe who brought us hot drinks and heated up the babies bottle so that I could feed him as soon as he was released.

So other than the horrid woman, my faith was mostly restored.

Sadly as you were in a public place, she doesn't need your permission to share it - but is it possible she was filming on Snapchat and it's already gone? That seems to be a craze right now, filming silly things people see while they are out. Still stupid, but at least they don't save usually.

I hope you and baby are alright now.

Blimey how did that happen.....so I never do it

And she was being a bitch

She’s probably hoping to sell it to the local news

This is everything that’s wrong with peoples attitude and social media today. There’s always been rubber neckers nut this new thing where everyone pulls out their phones and films, sometimes instead of actually helping someone in need is just sickening

@AnchorDownDeepBreath without being rude, she was a bit older - not of the SnapChat generation of that makes sense?

@Figgygal my car locks itself if you don't open one of the front doors within a certain amount of time. So I put the baby and the bag in and then accidentally knocked the door shut as I turned round to sort DD. The annoying thing is my keys are almost always in my coat pocket but because I had various hats and gloves in my pockets as we'd just been for a walk I'd put them in the side pocket of the bag instead! Oh and I normally put DD in the car first so she would have been able to unlock it from the inside! Definitely a lesson learned today

Agree she was an absolute dick. As stated I think it's perfectly legal for her to do it but still a total twat thing to do. Sounds like the paramedics were stars though.

If a FB of mine did this I'd tell them the same and unfriend them immediately.

I hope you and DD are ok now? I bet that first hug when you got her out felt like magic

You poor thing OP, glad to hear the majority of people were lovely to you. Sadly there are some sad excuses of human beings that will do anything for attention. She may put it on FB but so what, you’ve not done anything wrong, most people would feel for you in that situation.

I just read this article earlier.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-45839351
I don't understand the motivation. If someone's threatening me, sure maybe I would film them if I can. If there's a crime and you may be able to help with evidence? Maybe. Your situation? Totally voyeuristic.

Glad everyone's ok. Don't beat yourself up. I've done it too. I locked my bag (and phone) in the car too so had to go away to find help. xx

Oh and the locking your keys in thing ... when you whizzing round at 100 mph with a busy head and kids it's oddly easy to do that kind of thing so don't beat yourself up

I get really annoyed when I see all sorts of amateur footage of accidents/ traumatic events and hope the people would at least have got their phone out to call for help not just to film something..but think some shitty news outlets pay for videos.

OP it's a mistake that happens to any car owner at any point in their lives. You just happened to be unlucky and do it when your son was a baby.

Oh and the woman is a CF. I guess some people need to have some distress in their own lives before they have empathy and sense.

you poor thing

try not to dwell on it - that womanwas a complete twat.

I’m learning that some people are just fucking cunts.

I’m a really nice and optimistic person but there really are some pathological dickheads out there. Literally the only way to deal with it is to breeze on with life and remember that your life or spirit is better than theirs.

My DP text me yesterday upset because a woman has accosted him when out with our baby son. He was no where near her but she claimed he ran her foot over with our pushchair and her immediate reaction was to say “you are so rude, I pity that baby he doesn’t have a chance with a dad like you”

Why do people act like this? If it was me I would have laughed in her face but DP is very sensitive to people like that for a variety of reason and my blood was boiling.

How can you be so, so unkind? Why would you watch a stressed mother who had accidentally locked her baby in her car and was immediately getting it dealt with?

I avoid people I don’t know as much as I can.

Thank you all for the lovely messages. I stayed relatively calm at the time but got quite upset on the way home. But we are all fine, the car is fine and DD got to sit in an ambulance and finds it all hilarious!

Oh that's horrible. I can't imagine who would want to watch that video, and if people see it on fb, surely she's the one who will look bad for filming.

I was in a local petrol station a few weeks ago and a toddler somehow locked the car while the keys were inside & his mum outside. One of the staff came and stood guard by the car while I drove her home to get her spare keys, only a couple of streets away thankfully. She was so upset - such a horrible thing to happen & having to trust a stranger to watch her child, but it would have been so much more upsetting if people had used it as an opportunity to gawp, pass judgement or film.

We've all done silly things but it sounds like you handled this really well & did all the right things, so just try and forget this stupid woman and focus on the fact that there were nice people willing to help you.