I've just been mulling over this scenario - a real one - and wondering what your reactions are, because certain aspects of it don't seem right.
Teenage girl (A) is in her final year at a tiny indie 5-16 girls' school, which has a 'caring reputation' and a higher than average number of girls with SEN (sensory impairments, those who found it difficult to settle in state schools, one or two looked-after children). This teenager is intelligent but hearing impaired, introverted and rather different from her peers. She regularly gets teased by them over her ignorance of current music, and prefers books to make-up and fashion. Has no interest in boys (aside from the occasional crush on sports stars) but has been embroiled in an intense friendship with a girl (B) who used to be in the form above her.
It's not a good one. The other girl has a very dominating personality and A is freakishly quiet in her presence. She tells me B is just more interesting than the others and gets her in a way nobody else does. The trouble is, B regularly upsets A by ignoring her at random times for no reason, verbal put-downs, talking over her and only listening on those rare occasions she feels like it. B has now left the school and it would be a good time to let this go.
However, the girls have sporadically been in touch. I gather A has recently sent B a very emotional message detailing exactly how B's behaviour has been making her feel, and it was not well received. A is under stress because her exams are coming up and her grandfather died recently; B has been busy at college with a new set of friends and studies.
A went to Matron's office in tears and told Matron - who also happens to be B's mum and has been ferrying messages between them. Matron has advised that the friendship needs to be broken off for both their sakes (which I don't dispute) - but AIBU to think that Matron's school involvement in this is rather questionable professionally, given her relationship to B? A is devastated and really wants to salvage the friendship, but says she messed up big time by sending that message. Matron apparently told her she was the perpetrator of the break-up. What's your opinion?