Changing my name

[Purplecatshopaholic]

hi all. First post, be gentle! I am getting divorced after 24 years (he cheated). Do I change my name back? I have had my married name for a long time obvs and not sure I can be bothered with the hassle - but at the same time I want nothing to do with him any more. What would you do??

Do you have kids? For me, I only got married so I had the same name as my kids, not sure I’d want to change it back because I’d be different to my kids.

Do you have children?

Do what makes you happy

It's entirely up to you! Do you have children? If so it might be a bit of a pain having different surnames.
I loathe my exH but CBA (couldn't be arsed) to change my name back.
If I'd had a beautiful maiden name like De Rosario I would have changed it back perhaps, but mine was deeply dull and boring. My married surname isn't anything special.

HTH! (hope that helps )

Up.to you really ,after 24 years it's "your name " now.

Do you want to change your name?
Do you have young children?
Would changing your name be ok professionally? (maybe you are a high flyer)

I changed mine to maiden name a while after divorcing.
DC have their father's surname, not XH's - he was their stepfather.
They were old enough (mid teens) for it not to cause any problems.
XH's husband's surname wasn't one I liked much anyway.
Maiden name is one of those surnames that is quite often used as a first name.

Hmmm, one to ponder. My stepson has a different name to us anyway, so thats not an issue. Work-wise it would not be an issue (although I guess I might have to deal with questions about congrats on your marriage - err, no!), its more the hassle of banks, etc.

www.theguardian.com/money/2013/feb/06/changing-your-name-dos-and-donts