To let my 12yo watch Sex Education?

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He's nearly 13 (year8) and I've just caught him trying to look up porn on my iPad.

I really don't want him looking at porn for all the obvious reasons.

He managed to change the filter settings and use incognito mode!

DH and I have been watching Sex Education on Netflix. I'd rather he watched that to be honest. At least it's a little more realistic!

Or maybe just go back to Peppa Pig.

It’s really not normal.

It’s just becoming more acceptable.

And I’m not a clutcher of pearls. I’m just horrified at what kids are up to these days.

A girl in ds’s tutor group took some nudes of herself. She’s 13. She was horrified when the boy she sent them to passed them to friends and before she knew it, they had gone viral through the school.

13. She’s 13. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Agree with calzone. Looking at catalogues etc is a world away from this. Even the sharing of dodgy mags is better than this 24 hour acccess to anything and everything.

We need to wake up and put porn back where it belongs - out of reach to children. Yes some will get through but this normalising is really worrying.

Yes, I agree it's awful, but what are you going to do about it? You can't just put the lid back on Pandora's box. It's the equivalent of people in the 1400's saying we have to reverse the invention of the printing press.

The spreading of information is generally a good thing when used well by people with good intentions. The problem isn't the technology but some people who are using it to exploit others and make money and damaging our children. What we need is more awareness and more of a movement to mobilise people to say this stuff is unacceptable.

You're never going to stop that kind of porn being made or stop anyone determined to access it from doing so. What we need to do is flood the internet and social media with double the amount of stuff with positive influences to counter the negative influence and provide easily accessible alternatives.

The OP was asking if there were any ethical sites and it's just awful that no-one can name any, or that they're not common knowledge whereas Pornhub is a household name. More lobbying and more shouting about this to get it high on the agenda!

TBF when I was at school in the 90s I knew plenty of people having sex at 12/13/14 and plenty more passing around their Dad’s grubby magazines - I’m not saying it’s okay but I don’t think young teenagers becoming interested in sex is a new thing, what’s worrying is that young people now are able to access porn sites that show extreme, often violent sex acts as if those acts are the norm. So, yes I think a show like Sex Education is a great way to counter that with a messier, more realistic portrayal of sex and relationships.

A girl in ds’s tutor group took some nudes of herself. She’s 13. She was horrified when the boy she sent them to passed them to friends and before she knew it, they had gone viral through the school.

This is so common. A classmate of DD did the same but I think she was a year younger, her older DB found out and told their mum so she confiscated her phone for 6 months. The girl then did it again, and again, she seemed to enjoy the attention it got her and had slept with numerous boys by the time she left school. The majority of DDs year didn't send nudes, but there were plenty of girls and boys who did it constantly.

I have also seen a group chat where 11 year old girls were asking the 11 year old boys for dick pics. And yes I let the parents know.

chocolate it's so sad isn't it. I worked in a school where a Year 9 girl was giving boys BJs and it was being filmed. She got permanently excluded and goodness know what became of her.

The issue with these incidents is that the teenagers have no sense of self / self respect / or enough self value / esteem. As ever the parents are to blame for this. More parents need to understand their own mental health and psychology in order to raise children full of self respect. But sadly it's a cycle and so many parents are ill equipped.

I would. It's realistic and funny and nothing obscene happens really.

Also for incognito mode you literally click on the ... on the right of the browser and select incognito tab. Takes less than 3 seconds and is not wizard hacking

@Calzone it's not unusual, I first watched porn aged 11 in 2005. And I'm female. It's a whole new world out there.

Eurotrash was my porn back in the day, with mute on
Big mouth is great on Netflix, my eldest watched sex Ed and said it was crap and fake.
The thing about allowing him to watch certain things is he already know loads and probably really gross stuff. Talk to him, if he wants to watch porn tell him to start with boobs. Because my eldest told me that some of his classmates look at it at school which he thinks is just odd.

I make it very jokey and try to still be informative- it's one of those things you dread and it is as bad as you thought it would be.