AIBU for still feeling cross? Recently DH commented on a picture of a woman in Facebook. It was a "gym selfie" ie posed in leggings and gym top, bum sticking out, pouty face etc. Her post was all about her workout and pretty new pink gym top. DH had liked it and commented "cute". Obviously as this is a public forum, I'd seen the comment and post on my time line, as had a few friends who messaged me about it, generally saying WTF is he doing?
On closer investigation, this isn't the only picture of hers he'd liked. He has liked, and "wow faced" several. None of her doing actual workouts, or of her healthy food, but ALL of the skin tight leggings gym selfies, all of the bikini on a beach ones, and all of the dressed up to the nines going out in waist plunging body con dresses ones. He's also been following and liking about 30 very similar accounts on Instagram, liking all the bikini bod pics.
I was upset, and told him so. Don't get me wrong, he of course can find other people attractive, you don't stop that just because you're married. I take offence to the fact that he's doing it so publicly. It's the online equivalent in my head of going out with me to a bar for example, with all our mutual friends, and flirting (badly) with some 20 years younger than us girl who turns up. It's disrespectful.
It also makes me sad because I used to have an awesome figure, but 2 kids down the line I just can't get it back to what it was, and certainly it was never anywhere near as thin as this girl! So now I feel disrespected and not good enough.
What makes matters worse is that he knows this girl. She's a member of his gym and he sees her up there. He claims to only have spoken to her once, but he's been wowing over her bikini bod on Facebook for almost a year.
Perhaps I should let it go, but I can't get over how blatant he can be. Can he not just watch porn in private like everyone else?!? AIBU?