Escorting to pay for a course/quick cash?

[WantABetterLife]

There's a career path I want to go down but I can only get there if I have £1500 for the course. And I know I will get employed quickly as these skills from the course are really sought after.

I'm so poor. I have a 3 year old getting 15 hours free childcare. She will get 30 hours next term but I still pay for 10 hours on top per week so I can do all the required hours at my job. My partner won't help me financially despite earning so much more than me. He pays rent in his HA flat with dirt cheap rent in London. He also owns a flat and is a landlord bringing in a decent amount.

Im mid 20's with a lack of skills and education. Medicore gcses, poor A levels but good grades in my Access Course but its not a recognised qualification. Highest level of education is level 4, so 1st year of university. Worked in retail and call centres but only part time and I haven't had a consistent work history especially lately as I have a child.

I feel like I have too much pressure. Debts to repay, childcare costs and I hate the job I'm currently in (call centre). I have no savings, no pension and no prospects I sometimes think of ending it all.

If I make money from escorting only in the short term, I can buy the course and do a job I actually enjoy where I can move up the ranks and earn well.

I want to leave my "partner" but obviously I can't or I'll be homeless- no family to help and no money for a deposit or to move my stuff so I'm stuck here. I'm in the council's waiting list and bidding every week but I never get chosen. It's been 3 years.

[PoliticalBiscuit]

I know you feel ashamed.

I remember once being in a pit of depression so awful, that I was so lonely. I saw no light and no way out. No one understood. Or cared. I wasn't so bad that anyone needed to do anything. No one would put me in an institution. No one would give me any good medication. I really thought I had no other choice but to carry on living like that. No one cared that I needed to die. I didn't want to. I needed to. Life was intolerable.

Honestly, I know what I am about to say sounds awful, but it's the truth - I joined a group online of other people with depression and realised we were all the same. I wasn't alone in how I felt, my feelings weren't unique. They were mundane, run of the mill. Mild, in fact, compared to some people. And weirdly, that made me feel better.

The life that you are in, your rut, your lot... Might all at once feel not so bad and also so so bad .

In truth, where you are is common. It is NOT normal, but it is not unusual.

That's good - there's a safety net for you ready for when you jump. There's a set of ladders that have already been made for you to climb your way back on top of life again. Ask for them - ask for someone to throw you a lifeline and then grab it with both hands.

People are trained to help you. Able to support you. Want to give you a great life.

But only if they hear you.

[Missingstreetlife]

Do not get a payday loan. Is there careers advisor at your library or local college. If you are not on the tenancy and have no right to stay you may be eligible for housing, or at least housing benefit. Do seek advice. Are you sure your parents won't help you get away. Your partner is not worth your time, you deserve better

[Missingstreetlife]

Whole you are getting child benefit and anything else you are entitled to. You would get more if separated. You may be able to present as homeless, shelter will advise. I would shop your partner, but get safe first.

[Missingstreetlife]

Hope, not whole! ?

[AhhhHereItGoes]

Can work instead? At least you are safe and don't have to be touched by strangers.

Matched Betting can be really good if you have the patience and as you are interested in accountancy you likely would be good at it.

Look out for paid research too - universities often do this.

Is there anything you can sell?

Are you able to do child minding, dog walking etc for a few months to increase money?

[AhhhHereItGoes]

Please do tell your family though - they could help you.

Pride is one thing but when it comes to the safety and well-being of not only you but your child, sometimes you just have to take what you can get no matter how hard.

If I was your friend I'd help you.

[Germ1360]

Perhaps find out if the banks still do career development loans? Worth a try even if credit history isn't great. But the best option is still getting an entry level position and having your employer fund you to do AAT. There are places which do this, I nearly did this myself. Do NOT get into escorting, for all the reasons people have already said. And your partner sounds awful.

[Octopus37]

You poor thing, agree with what the others are saying.

There is also a website called //www.themoneyshed.co.uk which is basically about making money online. Lots of ideas, including one at the bottom of the referrals, where you can buy a share for £1. Best of luck

[Auntiepatricia]

No. Just no. If you think things are bad now then you’d have to be utterly crazy to take a step in such a physically and psychologically dangerous direction. You might as well cut your legs off.

Leave your partner. Get the social support you are entitled to. It will be hard but if you make the best choices you can things will at least head in the right direction. You can do this course another time or in another way. For now you have other issues to fix.

[Mountainsoutofmolehills]

OK. Escourting is always there, I think these things generally don't stop where they start, and the reality is having to put out for gross men, that have 'paid' so feel they can do what they want. So put that idea on the back burner.

an accountancy qualification sounds great.
You say your have one year of uni. Could you check with student finance if they would give you another loan for another degree? Or could you go back to it?

Ways to make money without leaving your house.?
Childminding? Babysitting
Dog walking (ok you have to leave your house) Can you make up a great fb page and get it advertised locally/borrow your mates dog/get some dog snaps/get a big jumper printed with details on.
Informal care?
Ironing (I couldn't do this is my life depended on it, wish I could)
Make protein bars/flapjacks for local gym bunnies (30 bar orders a month orders only- you could use almond butter instead of butter/honey and lots of dried fruits)
Gofund me for your course? Make a simple video with your story. £1500.
is there a working mom locally you could team up with to create home made food etc for her, pick her kids up...?
knit.
buy old things and paint them and put them on ebay
apply to Flu Camp trials... i wish i could get onto those.
Anything you can sell on ebay
ask someone, it's for a course?

Better yourself but look after your heart.


Sex phones sound better than escourting/wear a mask :)

[Hollywhiskey]

Hi OP
I think my firm would interview you for a trainee role with 112 new style UCAS points. If I tell you we're top ten but not big 4 that should help you search. There are loads of interesting roles you could do and we have offices nationwide so please investigate further.
The large firms prefer training their own students whereas good jobs in industry tend to prefer you to have training and experience already so do look into roles in practice.

[Hollywhiskey]

Just thinking out loud here - I never did AAT I just did ACA so I'm not sure if the AAT's regulations. But my regulatory body, the ICAEW, would probably kick me out if they found out I was prostituting myself. There's an ethical standard about professional behaviour which also applies to your personal life and I suspect they wouldn't want to see members selling sex.

[Dieu]

You need to do a search on here, as there was a very recent and insightful thread on escorting.
Good luck OP.

[SilverySurfer]

Greywalls12
Try matched betting, you only need to start with £10 but can start with more if you have it. Give it a google

I was about to suggest this. You cannot lose money, it is not betting in the traditional sense. There are a couple of threads on the Money Matters Board on MN and people would be happy to help you.

This website is incredibly helpful and gives you step by step instructions: www.savethestudent.org/make-money/what-is-matched-betting.html

Some people make £500 a month - it needs concentration, time and effort but please give it a try before doing escorting. I did it until I had made enough for something which I couldn't afford and would do so again without hesitation.

Good luck.

[BoglingToAswad]

Firstly, most people on Mumsnet don't have the first clue about sex work.

I am a sex worker, and while I do enjoy my job, I think you sound too fragile and desperate to enter the industry.

You have clearly said that you do not want to be a sex worker, so you shouldn't be.

[ohtheholidays]

How about phone sex OP,you should be able to work hours around your DD and it would be alot safer for you.

As for your DP,is he your DD's father?If he is tell him to put up(some money)or fuck off because if he's not helping to pay for anything right now how breaking up with him would make you homeless?

If not phone sex alot of women are making money from making small films and clips online and for all sorts of things,some eat,some stand on toy cars in high heels,some play in custard you can do those things without anyone knowing who you are by wearing a wig,wearing a masquerade mask/disguising the way you look and by removing any personal items from the room your using and no I've never done any of those things but I have seen lots of documentaries online and on tv about it.

Another idea that's supposed to be able to bring in some good money is selling on used shoes to fetishist's who are into that kind of thing.

Selling on used socks,tights and stockings as well are supposed to be a well known way of making money in the short term for the same reason as the used shoes sell.

I hope things start picking up for you and your DD soon OP I really do and whatever you do if you do any of the things I mentioned to bring in some needed money don't ever tell anyone including your DP because the less people that know the more you can keep your private life private.