Escorting to pay for a course/quick cash?

[WantABetterLife]

There's a career path I want to go down but I can only get there if I have £1500 for the course. And I know I will get employed quickly as these skills from the course are really sought after.

I'm so poor. I have a 3 year old getting 15 hours free childcare. She will get 30 hours next term but I still pay for 10 hours on top per week so I can do all the required hours at my job. My partner won't help me financially despite earning so much more than me. He pays rent in his HA flat with dirt cheap rent in London. He also owns a flat and is a landlord bringing in a decent amount.

Im mid 20's with a lack of skills and education. Medicore gcses, poor A levels but good grades in my Access Course but its not a recognised qualification. Highest level of education is level 4, so 1st year of university. Worked in retail and call centres but only part time and I haven't had a consistent work history especially lately as I have a child.

I feel like I have too much pressure. Debts to repay, childcare costs and I hate the job I'm currently in (call centre). I have no savings, no pension and no prospects I sometimes think of ending it all.

If I make money from escorting only in the short term, I can buy the course and do a job I actually enjoy where I can move up the ranks and earn well.

I want to leave my "partner" but obviously I can't or I'll be homeless- no family to help and no money for a deposit or to move my stuff so I'm stuck here. I'm in the council's waiting list and bidding every week but I never get chosen. It's been 3 years.

[ohtheholidays]

How about phone sex OP,you should be able to work hours around your DD and it would be alot safer for you.

As for your DP,is he your DD's father?If he is tell him to put up(some money)or fuck off because if he's not helping to pay for anything right now how breaking up with him would make you homeless?

If not phone sex alot of women are making money from making small films and clips online and for all sorts of things,some eat,some stand on toy cars in high heels,some play in custard you can do those things without anyone knowing who you are by wearing a wig,wearing a masquerade mask/disguising the way you look and by removing any personal items from the room your using and no I've never done any of those things but I have seen lots of documentaries online and on tv about it.

Another idea that's supposed to be able to bring in some good money is selling on used shoes to fetishist's who are into that kind of thing.

Selling on used socks,tights and stockings as well are supposed to be a well known way of making money in the short term for the same reason as the used shoes sell.

I hope things start picking up for you and your DD soon OP I really do and whatever you do if you do any of the things I mentioned to bring in some needed money don't ever tell anyone including your DP because the less people that know the more you can keep your private life private.

[BoglingToAswad]

Firstly, most people on Mumsnet don't have the first clue about sex work.

I am a sex worker, and while I do enjoy my job, I think you sound too fragile and desperate to enter the industry.

You have clearly said that you do not want to be a sex worker, so you shouldn't be.

[SilverySurfer]

Greywalls12
Try matched betting, you only need to start with £10 but can start with more if you have it. Give it a google

I was about to suggest this. You cannot lose money, it is not betting in the traditional sense. There are a couple of threads on the Money Matters Board on MN and people would be happy to help you.

This website is incredibly helpful and gives you step by step instructions: www.savethestudent.org/make-money/what-is-matched-betting.html

Some people make £500 a month - it needs concentration, time and effort but please give it a try before doing escorting. I did it until I had made enough for something which I couldn't afford and would do so again without hesitation.

Good luck.

[Dieu]

You need to do a search on here, as there was a very recent and insightful thread on escorting.
Good luck OP.

[Hollywhiskey]

Just thinking out loud here - I never did AAT I just did ACA so I'm not sure if the AAT's regulations. But my regulatory body, the ICAEW, would probably kick me out if they found out I was prostituting myself. There's an ethical standard about professional behaviour which also applies to your personal life and I suspect they wouldn't want to see members selling sex.

[Hollywhiskey]

Hi OP
I think my firm would interview you for a trainee role with 112 new style UCAS points. If I tell you we're top ten but not big 4 that should help you search. There are loads of interesting roles you could do and we have offices nationwide so please investigate further.
The large firms prefer training their own students whereas good jobs in industry tend to prefer you to have training and experience already so do look into roles in practice.

[Mountainsoutofmolehills]

OK. Escourting is always there, I think these things generally don't stop where they start, and the reality is having to put out for gross men, that have 'paid' so feel they can do what they want. So put that idea on the back burner.

an accountancy qualification sounds great.
You say your have one year of uni. Could you check with student finance if they would give you another loan for another degree? Or could you go back to it?

Ways to make money without leaving your house.?
Childminding? Babysitting
Dog walking (ok you have to leave your house) Can you make up a great fb page and get it advertised locally/borrow your mates dog/get some dog snaps/get a big jumper printed with details on.
Informal care?
Ironing (I couldn't do this is my life depended on it, wish I could)
Make protein bars/flapjacks for local gym bunnies (30 bar orders a month orders only- you could use almond butter instead of butter/honey and lots of dried fruits)
Gofund me for your course? Make a simple video with your story. £1500.
is there a working mom locally you could team up with to create home made food etc for her, pick her kids up...?
knit.
buy old things and paint them and put them on ebay
apply to Flu Camp trials... i wish i could get onto those.
Anything you can sell on ebay
ask someone, it's for a course?

Better yourself but look after your heart.


Sex phones sound better than escourting/wear a mask :)

[Auntiepatricia]

No. Just no. If you think things are bad now then you’d have to be utterly crazy to take a step in such a physically and psychologically dangerous direction. You might as well cut your legs off.

Leave your partner. Get the social support you are entitled to. It will be hard but if you make the best choices you can things will at least head in the right direction. You can do this course another time or in another way. For now you have other issues to fix.

[Octopus37]

You poor thing, agree with what the others are saying.

There is also a website called //www.themoneyshed.co.uk which is basically about making money online. Lots of ideas, including one at the bottom of the referrals, where you can buy a share for £1. Best of luck

[Germ1360]

Perhaps find out if the banks still do career development loans? Worth a try even if credit history isn't great. But the best option is still getting an entry level position and having your employer fund you to do AAT. There are places which do this, I nearly did this myself. Do NOT get into escorting, for all the reasons people have already said. And your partner sounds awful.

[AhhhHereItGoes]

Please do tell your family though - they could help you.

Pride is one thing but when it comes to the safety and well-being of not only you but your child, sometimes you just have to take what you can get no matter how hard.

If I was your friend I'd help you.

[AhhhHereItGoes]

Can work instead? At least you are safe and don't have to be touched by strangers.

Matched Betting can be really good if you have the patience and as you are interested in accountancy you likely would be good at it.

Look out for paid research too - universities often do this.

Is there anything you can sell?

Are you able to do child minding, dog walking etc for a few months to increase money?

[Missingstreetlife]

Hope, not whole! ?

[Missingstreetlife]

Whole you are getting child benefit and anything else you are entitled to. You would get more if separated. You may be able to present as homeless, shelter will advise. I would shop your partner, but get safe first.

[Missingstreetlife]

Do not get a payday loan. Is there careers advisor at your library or local college. If you are not on the tenancy and have no right to stay you may be eligible for housing, or at least housing benefit. Do seek advice. Are you sure your parents won't help you get away. Your partner is not worth your time, you deserve better

[PoliticalBiscuit]

I know you feel ashamed.

I remember once being in a pit of depression so awful, that I was so lonely. I saw no light and no way out. No one understood. Or cared. I wasn't so bad that anyone needed to do anything. No one would put me in an institution. No one would give me any good medication. I really thought I had no other choice but to carry on living like that. No one cared that I needed to die. I didn't want to. I needed to. Life was intolerable.

Honestly, I know what I am about to say sounds awful, but it's the truth - I joined a group online of other people with depression and realised we were all the same. I wasn't alone in how I felt, my feelings weren't unique. They were mundane, run of the mill. Mild, in fact, compared to some people. And weirdly, that made me feel better.

The life that you are in, your rut, your lot... Might all at once feel not so bad and also so so bad .

In truth, where you are is common. It is NOT normal, but it is not unusual.

That's good - there's a safety net for you ready for when you jump. There's a set of ladders that have already been made for you to climb your way back on top of life again. Ask for them - ask for someone to throw you a lifeline and then grab it with both hands.

People are trained to help you. Able to support you. Want to give you a great life.

But only if they hear you.

[Gedge77]

You dont need an expensive course to do AAT. Buy the books from Amazon and sit the exams as a external candidate.

[Floomph]

All the best. Ps also to be a member of an accounting body you have to follow certain ethical rules and act professional at all times. If you were to escort and this were to be found out you could end up being struck off anyway. So basically don’t do that.

I think this needs highlighting!

[Floomph]

You need to contact Women's Aid. I promise doing so won't result in them calling SS and you losing your child. You need to lean on the appropriate agencies/charities for support right now and start from there.

If you go into escorting, you sound vulnerable enough that it would be highly damaging and you will get stuck in it. It will only make your life 10x worse.

[loldolly]

Hi OP! I’m an accountant and just wanted to put some ideas out.

Firstly why are you getting turned down for loans? Sorry if I’ve missed why, this could actually affect you gaining membership to accounting bodies so do check if it’s because of unpaid loans etc. Some jobs also won’t hire you if you don’t have a clear credit score (especially financial services etc) don’t want to put a downer on it but be careful on investing time and money if it won’t work out.

Secondly, firms will employ you even with only gcse especially if you’ve shown an interest in accountancy which it looks like you have. I phoned a firm up and they hired me because I’d already passed one exam. I would phone lots up and say I started aat but feel like work experience would really help bring the subject to life.

Thirdly you can sit aat at home without a course and book the exams yourself. The exams obviously cost money but you can do this so may well be worth you going back and sitting your level 2 and going back to my second point above.

All the best. Ps also to be a member of an accounting body you have to follow certain ethical rules and act professional at all times. If you were to escort and this were to be found out you could end up being struck off anyway. So basically don’t do that.

Lastly, have a long term plan to get life back on track. You will be ok. It doesn’t all have to happen tomorrow. Take step by step so maybe this week just phone some firms. Next week phone some more etc.

[OurChristmasMiracle]

First of all get down to the council. Tell them he is financially and emotionally abusive and this is causing you to feel Suicidal. Speak to women’s aid too. Get out of there!

Have you tried looking into internships? This is how I got back into work after years out of work and without official qualifications due to domestic abuse/ violence.

If your close by St Mungos in addition to homelessness and hostels also have a recovery college and a skills and employment team who may be able to help.

Escorting is not the way to go. Please don’t feel pressured into being sexually exploited

[hazell42]

Please dont feel ashamed. Tell someone today. Start to make that break. Even if all you do us talk to samaritans. You are clearly bright and ambitious and are capable of making a success of your life for yourself and your child.
Your partner is a chain around your neck tying you to your current life.
Cut him loose as soon as you can and enjoy the life you build for yourself.
Good luck

[shortlongterm]

I'd suggest massage with happy ending?

[LittleMissA]

Do you still have your books etc from level 2? You can contact Kaplan etc to just go to their centre for the exams, prices vary between £50-100 per exam usually. You can buy second hand books on ebay. I have the final level of AAT to finish and this is what i'm doing. I just email them when I'm ready to sit an exam, they send available dates, as long as your AAT membership is up to date you can pay and book in for the exam.

[Alpacanorange]

You are in an abusive relationship, financial abuse at least if you really believe the answer to your problems is selling yourself for sex. Contact women’s aid.