To be so broody this early in a relationship?

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I’ve only been with my boyfriend for a year and it’s only really been “serious” for the last few months, meeting each other’s families and friends and making future plans . We have talked and we both want marriage and kids in the future (I already have a teenager from previous relationship). My biological clock is definitely ticking - we are both 33 this year. I don’t want to rush the relationship and put pressure on it, and my boyfriend guesses that I “have a good few years of fertility left yet”. I just never wanted to be a new mum over the age of 35 (at the absolute most) but it looks like it’s going to have to be that way. I don’t know how to calm down my baby fever so it doesn’t pressure this relationship and kill it off before. Someone talk sense into me!

I think at your ages and in a year-long relationship you really should be able to communicate exactly what your thoughts and desires are around having more kids/marriage etc.

A year into my relationship was around when we moved in together, and before that both discussed whether we wanted marriage and kids and roughly when, if the relationship continued to go well.

I don’t think you’d be rushing it to TTC in a year or so (so you’ve been together a couple of years) but your boyfriend’s comments don’t make it sound like he’s desperate for a baby himself or in any rush, which is entirely his prerogative too!

Are you nervous about talking to him and telling him you’d like to TTC in a certain time frame if the relationship continues to go well? Some people absorb the idea that you shouldn’t ‘scare a guy off’ but that’s nonsense. If you want more kids and he doesn’t or he wants to do it later than you do, you’re better off finding that out ASAP so you can move on and find someone who wants what you do.