To think this isn't my fault?

[mrspogue3]

DM looks after my two DDs on a Monday for me.

Today I got home before her and was in the kitchen when she arrived home. I didn't realise she was there until she came into the kitchen looking cross. My DD2 when getting out of the car had run into the road and she had to go after her, she told me 'You need to teach your children not to run out in the road'. Its never an issue for me as I get out, open the front door, take DD4 out hold her hand and lead her to the other side, get DD2 out and take her hand and lead them into the house. I tell them they can't run off because its dangerous and they don't run off. It hasn't been a problem so far.

I have commented to her before that she will load up the car whilst DD2 and DD4 loiter around the car but she shrugged it off 'they won't run off when im here'.

AIBU to say its not my fault that DD2 ran into the road when I wasn't even there?

Your mum probably got the fright of her life. Don’t make this an issue. If you would rather she dealt with getting the kids in and out differently, ask her (nicely). And also tell your DC to never do that again, wait for granny etc.

Amazing of your DM to look after your DC on a Monday.

I know. It wouldn't be feasible for me to continue my working without her. She's a widow and doesn't work so in that respect I am lucky.

I do try and make suggestions or ask her nicely but it doesn't matter, she gets defensive. I might show her how I do it next Monday and suggest she does it like that.

Of course something that happened when you weren't there isn't your fault!

She was probably shaken up and scared herself and just reacted badly by snapping at you. Absolutely not your fault and she probably knows it herself.