Friends and Holiday Money

[furryjammies]

I have NC for this and changed some of the details. Myself and a few friends had booked a short trip. We each paid a deposit of say £50 each. Remainder of money was due and one friend decides she no longer fancies it. Due to logistics, room divisions etc. we all cancelled - we have our reasons - there was no point in going - nothing to do with transport or anything. Anyway the friend who wasn't going offered to pay back our deposits, which the other friends said yes to. It is further complicated because all of the people were going had paid the money into my account - a direct debit was set up and I have their money. They have been repaid from this account, however, I felt it wasn't fair for me to take the money as well meaning that the friend who didn't want to go would be about £200 out of pocket. The rest think I'm a mug. What would you do?

Would it have been cheaper for her to cover or contribute to the increased cost of the rest of you to go? Is it definitely too late to do that?

How much was the whole trip?!
If she’d put £150 towards the cost of 3 of you going ahead without her, would it have been viable?

I think she should pay, yes - even if she didn’t offer. If as you say it’s only not going ahead because she pulled out on a whim.

But the devil is in the detail. If it was only going to cost you all say £30 each to go without her in a different room type, then it’s a bit harsh on her losing £150.

Tried to re-arrange or get someone else but we just couldn't and they were going to take the rest of the money so we had to make a quick decision.

For us all to carry on with the trip it was at least another £100 each and with one person pulling out probably more than that.

How much more was the trip costing each person without her? Is there any chance of getting the deposit refunded, or even part of it? I'd be pissed off if I lost £50 because she just couldn't be arsed going anymore. However I'm not sure I'd have taken up her offer of £50. Was there nobody else who could have gone in her place? Just remember to leave her off the group message next time you are organising a trip away!

@furryjammies You were all going to pay that anyway but how much more would it have cost you each to go without her?

Tbh it sounds like you were all looking for a reason not to go and she's given it to you. In that situation, I don't think you should take the 50 quid.

There really was no one else who could go and logistically it just didn't work. I will take the high ground and leave the money where it is - although I could have scammed them all 10 times over - they never know how much is in the account!

Crossed posts.

You have not said how much more it would be for the others if friend didn't go. Or what the logistics issues were.

Thanks everyone - I would have felt better if everyone had just lost their own deposit - it doesn't sit well with me but what's done is done.

So did you get charged for cancelling, and are therefore now out of pocket yourself?

I am now £50 out of pocket

Me and my friend organised a holiday to Las Vegas years ago. We paid £200 deposit each she met a boyfriend and cancelled, I couldn’t transfer the deposit to anything else so she gave me the £200 I lost from not going

I'm so confused by this. How could you of scammed them all? What account do you mean? How many of you were actually going?

Surely if you all only needed to pay her 100 between you it would of made sense her just paying that instead of replacing the deposits.

I'm confused too. You all very quickly made the decision to cancel the trip completely apparently without working out the additional costs or other logistics. Seems a bit odd.