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ftm90 · 04/02/2019 11:41

Posting here for traffic... please help and don't judge me too hard.

My DP and I recently had a LB. things have been great, my DP is very loving and has been amazing. Never had a reason to not trust him. Whilst looking for moisturiser, which he normally keeps in his bag, I saw a bottle of 'delay spray' to stop him from ejaculating so quickly. Now obviously it's a very real possibility he had this for us, but I've never seen him use it, and some is empty, and also I'm only 11 days PP, so we haven't had sex and we also weren't having sex so regularly towards the end of the pregnancy. Advice??? Shall I go with my initial feeling that he wouldn't ever cheat on me... or could it be something more???

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Seline · 04/02/2019 11:46

Did he have issues prematurely ejaculating with you? If not it's unlikely he's just developed it and has probably been using it without your knowledge. If he didn't have problems with it it's unlikely he suddenly would now with another woman.

He's been using it for wanking and either

  1. more comfortable around you so doesn't feel the need to hide it

Or

  1. He's sleep deprived and shattered and forgot he left it out
nc9876 · 04/02/2019 11:52

@Seline he has always finished quickly with me, and I've never had an issue with it, hence why I thought maybe it was for us, just found it bizarre I've never seen him use it or mention it as we are pretty open.

Seline · 04/02/2019 11:54

He's probably really embarrassed about it

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ftm90 · 04/02/2019 12:00

@Seline yes I don't think I'll bring it up, didn't think he would cheat on me. I adore him x

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thinkingcapon · 04/02/2019 12:02

Why don't you just ask him about it? Save yourself the nagging feeling....x

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ftm90 · 04/02/2019 12:04

@thinkingcapon I think I might, but I also don't want to embarrass him. Because I do love and trust him x

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thinkingcapon · 04/02/2019 12:42

But you must have doubts or else you wouldn't have written your post?

Sparklesocks · 04/02/2019 12:53

I think you just need to ask him. Doesn’t need to be confrontational or accusing, just ‘I saw this when I was looking for moisturiser, is everything ok?’. It’ll put your mind at rest and maybe his too if he’s having problems. I know it’s embarrassing but you have a child together, so should be able to talk about intimate things.

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