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To ask how would you handle this situation? (Job related)

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Jax07 · 03/02/2019 18:36

Started my new job about 3 weeks ago.
My gut told me not to take this job, I have heard bad things of the company but I was struggling and I had to get a job.

3 weeks into the job I realised that the company is worse than I ever imagined (and I definitely didn't have high hopes!) The colleagues are vile and seems like a lot of the staff leaves after 3-6 months.
I am already struggling and I have to go back tomorrow and this makes me very anxious. There is a lot of gossiping, blaming each other going on but no one wants to get on with things. The old staff (2 people) LOVE chatting about problems for hours and I'm not exaggerating, I mean hours. It's not like yes there was a problem it's sorted now, next time we need to do it this way to not to have the same issue again- end of story. No they keep going on about it. It's so hard to listen to it! The other day one of them said something was my fault regarding a client who did business with us months before I started. I also have to take 5 days of holidays before end of March. The old staff have been talking about basically how I dare to take holidays after 3 weeks. But goodness me it's February already and I have to take it before March ?!
Another girl started the same time as me. She has same opinion as me. It's hard and it pays nothing. Any advice apart from looking for new jobs?

OP posts:
Smellyrose · 03/02/2019 18:43

Sounds like you need to find a new job! Sorry, I know that isn’t what you want to hear, but I imagine it’s the kind of place where anyone who feels like you gets out as soon as they can.

sonjadog · 03/02/2019 18:57

Yes, get out as quickly as you can. In the meantime, refuse to be drawn into any of these discussions. Be factual and go about your work.

SubparOwl · 03/02/2019 19:00

My coworkers are like this. When they are gossiping I just tune out and get on with work. If they try to draw me in, I'm non-commital. In your shoes I think I'd look for a new job. I still have lots to learn from mine and it does have good points so I can manage.

SubparOwl · 03/02/2019 19:02

That doesn't look right. Non committal maybe? Confused

SherlockSays · 03/02/2019 19:04

Apply for as many jobs as you can and use those 5 days for interview time. You're entitled to the 5 days so make sure you take them - it's none of their busybody business!

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Onandonandons · 03/02/2019 19:05

Life is too short to put up with that shit.

froggybiby · 03/02/2019 19:05

I would get out too...register with as many agencies as possible.

Horsemenoftheaclopalypse · 03/02/2019 19:23

You need to stay calm and take control of this situation and most importantly manage the anxiety and stress.
Understand you choose to go in each day (ie you are in control) and also that you have an exit plan. This should help keep you calm and with the end game in mind.

Start applying for new jobs - including contract work now, ie this evening.

You should only be on a week if on probation if it takes longer to find a job and there is longer notice When you resign negotiate with management to work no notice ie. immediate departure. Only do this verbally
If they decline I recommend going to the doctor and getting signed off for your notice period. I didn’t previously and wish to god I had.

Good luck - it will get better...

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Jax07 · 03/02/2019 19:56

Thanks for all the advice and support. It's good to know I'm not the only one who has struggeled with difficult work environment.

Thanks @Horsemenoftheaclopalypse for the good advice. I'll try my best to remember this tomorrow and every day until I find a new job

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MyNameIsArthur · 03/02/2019 20:09

I started a new job 10 years ago. After the first couple of days, I hated it. After a week I wanted to leave. It was a toxic environment. However I stuck with it and persevered but it was horrible there. I stayed for 6 years! Until it became totally unbearable and I went off with stress and anxiety. I've not been able to work since then. Has affected me badly. My advice to you is to empower yourself by starting to look for another job straightaway. Good luck

fifipop185 · 03/02/2019 20:18

I've worked in a similar office environment for 2 years and it was toxic, it affected me in so many ways. I threw myself in to job hunting and within 6 months took a job with a small company local to home where the people are nice and the office is relaxed. Get back out there OP, you have plenty to offer someone else.

Boyskeepswinging · 03/02/2019 20:24

Agree with previous advice about looking for another job ASAP. The other thing I would say is to listen to your gut instincts. Like you, I ignored mine and ended up being dreadfully bullied by the woman who was giving me bad vibes in the interview. On the plus side, now I'm a manager I remember how she treated me and I make damned sure I never treat my staff the same way.
Good luck in finding a better job!

Maelstrop · 03/02/2019 20:28

Find a new job, OP, life is too short to spend most of your waking hours hating your situation.

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