Partner making decisions without me

[Abcd1234987]

Such as when DC can stay home alone or walk to shops. Just does it without telling me despite months of telling DC no. Then all of the sudden partner lets it happen when I’m not there. Child is of reasonable age and mentality. Safety isn’t the issue. It’s leaving me out of the discussion and ultimate decision.

What age is she?

You haven't said what age she is?

How old is she?

I'm assuming she's a teenager here the way you're not answering the question.

YANBU - if it was something you hadn't discussed and a spur of the moment parenting decision, then fair enough, but given that you had specifically talked about these situations, then I think it was poor form to suddenly change his mind and allow it without giving you a chance to have any input.

It may not be something most parents would consider a big deal, but if you both agreed that it was, and it sounds like you specifically mentioned going to the shops when you found out that he had allowed her to stay home alone, then it should have been a joint decision.

Why are you saying no if you think they are mature enough?

Control. Of everyone it seems.