Husband doesn't believe in mental illness

[Grubsmummy]

So, I'm depressed. I have been for a very long time. Never had treatment. I just mask it and get through each day. Noone would guess I was depressed if asked.
I tell my husband how I truly feel and he isn't supportive at all. Thinks it's a load of rubbish and I should just pull myself together. How do i make him understand?
He thinks because we have a nice life and i don't go to work I have nothing to be depressed about. I have pointed out to him how many celebs, comedians, Hollywood stars suffer with depression, anxiety etc and their life's appear perfect

GPs can and do refer to psychological services including psychiatric services or your community mental health team which can also them refer to psychiatric services

I suggest getting yourself a medical diagnosis, and then take your hubby along to talk to the doctor. The doctor can explain the brain chemistry behind depression, and how the tablets can help to balance it out.

Perhaps then he'll understand how it works and stop being so unsupportive

I'm sorry you are feeling so low op . Your op makes me feel so upset for you.

It sounds as though your depression is situational and your anxiety is stopping you from escaping your current situation ifyswim. So a bit of a vicious cycle.

I agree with pps about taking small steps. . Great you have made an appt to get some help. That's step one!

Maybe step two could be a quick coffee with another mum after the school run? Tell her you have 30 mins to kill so it isn't overwhelming.

It's awful that your dh is so cold and unsupportive but you don't need his permission to seek help. In the nicest possible way, the only person who can turn this around is you, but you need to gather support around you.

(Oh yes, and you know it's madness to be expected to clean all day every day and to have no time for yourself or money or life of your own. This is bordering on abuse or coercive control. If your husband expects this of you, you also need help from women's aid or similar. You are not obliged to take orders from your dh or live in a way that he has determined for you. You need to somehow find the strength to plough your own furrow. Good luck op

You need to go back to the doctor's, there is a reason they focused on your weight and that is because diet, exercise and physical health can have a big impact on mental health. I know if I start getting depressed I start eating crap which makes me lethargic which makes me more depressed and the circle continues and I find eating healthily stops this cycle.
When the doctor's mentioned your weight did you mention that you comfort eat?
Everyone is different but I found making lists of things I was going to do and ticking them off helped, almost like mini targets. I broke each task down into smaller tasks so say cleaning the bathroom was toilet, sink, shower, bath, floor so I could see progress.
I also made myself go for a walk each lunchtime do I got some fresh air and exercise.
At the minute I can tell I'm feeling down and need to start the lists again.
You've taken the first step by booking healthy minds, that is a positive, now follow it up.