To have similar 'patterned' names for kids.

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So, I'm heavily pregnant with my second child and DH and I have hated all name choices that the other has liked until this one name... but I'm worried that it's too 'similar' to our firstborns because it has the same pattern of vowels and consonants, I.e. Ava and Eli.

Am I mad? Will anyone else notice and care?

We probably won't have a third so we won't have to worry about 'fitting' the inadvertent pattern or it being odd when the next is Alexandria or something.

I'm not a fan of same initials but that's just my taste. I know someone whose dc have similar and slightly hard to pronounce names and I have to think really hard before I open my mouth. I don't know, there are so many beautiful names out there I'd rather each child have a distinct name.

Deneil

That's bad enough alone without your brother being named Neil. 😂

As long as it's not Kim khloe kourtney kendal and Kylie you're finev and congrats on the baby

My children's names are similar But they suit them really well and we just knew they were right! Sometimes it throws people when they are out together but most of your life your name is used solo or partnered with a DP and not a sibling so we don't worry!

We've all got 1 syllable names but don't have similar sounding names. IMHO more than one syllable is just plain silly

There are children I know (brothers) who have identical names, bar the first letter. Like Harry and Barry, or Helen and Ellen. I also know of an Ethan and Bethan. At least those last ones don't sound quite the same.

Know someone who called their kids Harrison, Harriet, and Harry. Harrison now goes by Harry as that what his mates called him, Harriet goes by Harri (ditto) and Harry goes by Harry. So essentially all three kids are called Harry... Makes Ivo and Ivy look positively diverse

I don't see a problem with names with similar patterns eg Ava & Eli, Ella & Anna, Luke & Jake. In fact, I expect a lot of parents do this unintentionally because they like one style of name.

It's different to matchy-matchy pairs like Izzy & Lizzy, Jason & Mason, George & Georgette Foreman

I have a Denice and Denephew 😂😂 I love that joke

As long as it’s not as obvious as Harry and Barry I doubt anyone will notice. I only realised the other day my kids both have 6 letter names with 3 letters the same, they are completely different though.

As long as it isn’t like the twins I saw on Judge Judy. Dustin and Justin. 😂

Worst one I know a brother and sister not twins called Oliver and Olivia - ridiculous.

My oldest 2 DC have names ending in an -er sound. When I call for one I often get both or the wrong one. Or as the get older, neither, as they claim they thought they heard the others name

My son's stick insects are called Harry, Larry and Barry. He can tell them apart though.

Wouldn't recommend it for actual real-life kids.

Not a fan of similar sounding names. My SILa kids, Ava, Elsa, Georgia, Cooper. All end in an “a@ sound. Not good

As a passing comment - someone wondered about calling the wrong names all the time. In our house we miss-name frequently anyway, and our children's names are quite distinct from each other (plus one boy, one girl). So that particular problem seems to happen regardless of similarity of names and I wouldn't necessarily worry about it!

Why is it whenever someone starts a name thread, they never actually mention the names to make it easier for everyone, but go "it's like..." or "e.g.", or give everyone a riddle to follow?

They're just children's names, not top secret nuclear launch codes.

Why is it whenever someone starts a name thread, they never actually mention the names to make it easier for everyone

I imagine it's because if they are unusual they can be quite identifying (can't be many people with a Gandalf, Sarah and a Thumbelina-mae).

Or if they have come up with a truly unique name that they value for the fact that no one else is called it (we're calling our daughter 'Wobnair' it means backwards rainbow), they don't want to put it on a site visited by thousands of expectant parents who may fall in love with it and use it as well.

Or because personal opinions about names may distract from the subject of the OP ('aibu to veto the name my DH likes - Simon - because it's the same as the name of the man who brutally murdered all my family' replies 'Simon is such a lovely name...').

I've seen threads in baby names where people note they have an existing child called 'x' only to have a load of people slag it off. Can't imagine why anyone would want to avoid that!

Anyway, is my OP the exception that proves the rule, or did you miss that the names are in it!

My dad had a cousin Gwyn who married a Gwen. I had no clue which was which as a child !

Dh and I have 3 girls between us, all of their names end in 'A' - not deliberately done at all but I really like it! If we had another I would consider a name to fit but not essential.

I know a woman who has a Millie and Mollie ffs, provided it isn’t as bad as that you’ll be ok .