I have worked at my job for 4 years on and off (leave for 6 months and back for winter) most of the same people work there just a few changes in management.
I have recently come back from maternity and there are 2 new managers, one is pregnant and the other is a man with a son who's about 18 months old.
We are short staffed because 2 members of staff have called in sick, which seems to be happening alot recently and the manager on dayshift asked asked the night shift manager (guy with 18 month old) to come in early. His reply was "have you asked other staff first? Before I do free hours" he's salaried and he's also worked 6 days straight and has stated his wife is ill so he has been doing most of the housework/cooking/and looking after LO.
In my opinion it's fair enough that he would rather someone else to it , given his circumstances at the moment also there is 4 other members of management who could be picking up the slack. They have a management group chat so one of them has screenshotted the conversation and posted it into the staff group chat, which he is not apart of. I don't think this is appropriate as now everyone is slagging him off for not wanting to come in.
Some of the responses were
"Look at him mansplaining at how hard it is to cook his own dinner and look after his own child"
"As if we don't all have things to do, his child is like 5, they're not that hard to look after"
"Some of us have uni work to do"
"He chose to have a child, his problem"
This pissed me off, today is the third time this week I have been called in early because of sickness or because someone didn't prioritise their time correctly and left uni work too late so were begging for their shift to be covered. I covered as I am lucky to have my mum as a babysitter whenever I need and she is available all the time.
They chose to study, and I'm all for studying to better your chances of getting good jobs etc that's why I covered their shift, even though I constantly read messages of how they are avoiding uni work because they can't be bothered. I also get that he is deputy manager so it's usually their job to pick up the hours that can't be covered, but when there are 4 other members of management then I would probably be the same. None of these people have children either.
They have problems with this manager for reasons unknown to me as I've only been back 3 weeks, but now I feel if I am in a situation where if my LO is ill or my mum is ill and unable to babysit, I will have to call in sick as I have no one else to babysit but I will get slated behind my back? I have a fairly good relationship with my colleagues, I get on with everyone but I feel these comments were distasteful and immature, also sharing screenshots of the managers chat is not acceptable in my mind.
I feel like not going in early, and refusing to cover any shifts from now on if that's their attitude.
Don't know if ibu because of lack of sleep and feeling touchy. I don't even know this manager properly as he works opposite shifts to me most of the time, worked with him a couple of shifts, but I feel bad for the guy. He came across as an ok guy to me.
Would IBU to say something? 3 members of management are all friends with the staff, going out at the weekends, socialising after work etc to it feels a little like bullying.