DH - midlife crisis?

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Getting fed up with DH, moody, being over dramatic about age and life changing.(he's 50 as he has let us know for ages)

This weekend we were looking at some pics of the DCs as babies / toddlers (they are now 10 and 13) and he keeps asking to have another one (despite me being in 40s and not keen and had surgical problems as well) seems to be living in some kind of fantasy work of 'getting it back' moaning about us looking younger and 'so full of promise" and 'look at us now'

Yes, he has had a job change and now self employed, and we are getting older but everyone does, I don;t like this comparison and inability to just go with the flow, always looking back...it's annoying.

He keeps saying the DC will grow up and leave us, and being angsty about this 'what will we do' kind of thing.

I have suggested it might be nice for us to go out together but he says he will miss them. It kind of makes me feel I, and out older DCs are not enough.

Is he depressed?

I'd not be happy if my DH said these things to me.

Would he be open to exploring ideas about how he would like life to look in the next decade?

Things don't stay the same, and you can never really go back, but it's very healthy to think about how you would like things to be and make the necessary adjustments to try to get there.

e.g.

1. If he's worried about your children moving away, try to turn that into a positive aim of building and maintaining strong relationships with them so that they will choose to stay emotionally close and remain an active part if your lives. Shared hobbies? Actively staying connected with them?

1. There are lots of other ways to enrich your lives: friendships, interests, groups, volunteering. Now is the time to start building those up. You've got more free time, as your children become more self-sufficient, but you still have plenty of energy to build those links now.