Aibu to feel upset over husband and third child

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husband doesn’t want a third. I do. Obviously not something you can compromise on. Accepted it but rarely I can get a bit upset (mostly I go a bit quiet) when I see a newborn and briefly think of what could be. DH becomes an insensitive prick. Apparently I’m ungrateful for the children I do have. I must hate my life etc Why have I got to respect his feelings but he won’t respect mine? Why do I have to suddenly not want more children?

So you’d deliberately subject your existing children to a broken home to get what you want?

Seemingly so, they're already apparently inadequate.

Just because someone they wants a third does not mean they will want a 4th!

I'm having number 3. I can absolutely hand on heart confirm I never want a 4th.

Also. This also applies to anyone with more than one.

Clearly everyone's firstborns just weren't good enough. So they had to have more.

Do you think counselling might help you process it? in a sense you are perhaps grieving for the 3rd child you really want but can't have. I think counselling may be a good idea as although you aren't meaning to be going quiet/moody regularly is passive aggressive, so finding another way to process it might be helpful.

How old are your DC. Can you manage financially with a third, is time or your side, if the DC are young he probably cant wait to get back to some peace and may change his mind.
If not, then you have to make a decision, as much as your expected to just except it, it sounds like you will need some counselling, it is a tough one.

How do you know three will be enough ??? You will want 4/5/6

If he really doesn't want one then time is going to make no difference. He should have the snip.

Did you previously discuss how many you both wanted OP?