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AIBU?

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To expect my children not to get hit/punched/kicked at school.

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Schweetcorn0000 · 01/02/2019 17:37

AIBU to expect my primary age children to be able to go to school without being attacked by older/other children, see other children attacked now and then like it’s completely normal now? I have the impression that our school has just caved. It’s like they accept a certain level of violence is just inevitable.
Cut this as short as I can- first incident this year my son was attacked in year 6 by another year 6 in an unprovoked attack, it was nasty he was repeatedly kicked on the ground. Teachers had to be found. Second attack by the same pupil on my younger sons friend. Went pretty much the same way, except this time it’s a year 6 boy attacking a year 3 child. Again no teachers about they had to be found. Third incident- last week, my year 3 punched in the stomach by a year 6 boy after he refused to get off a bit of play equipment he was being told to get off of. No teacher. I feel awful as I had told him to stick up for himself as this child had been bothering him and his friends on and off for a while. Also- no phone call from the school, to tell me my child had been punched- I found out direct from him when he was sent home with a sore tummy.
I suppose what I’m asking is does anybody think this is reasonable? GinIs this now ok? Are other parents feeling as exasperated? And has anybody had any success in stopping this kind of thing happening at their school?

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Schweetcorn0000 · 01/02/2019 17:38

Sorry about the random gin in there!

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Confusedbeetle · 01/02/2019 17:39

No it is not acceptable. I would catalogue these events and make an appointment with the head

JoyceDivision · 01/02/2019 17:44

Agree, catalogue, make app with head, ask to be talked through behaviour Pol, ask how it is being implemented or reinforced.

If school say there are action plans or safeguarding issues re the pupil committing these acts they can't discuss with you then fine, but they can and must discuss plans that involve the care of your child if this pupil is likely to cause harm.

Question staffing, if this at break / lunch what staffing is in place, is it deemed adequate,if not what changes will be put in.pkace and when?

Mumofonetwothree · 01/02/2019 17:45

It's not acceptable...where were the adults?

Write all the incidents down.... Speak to the headteacher. if they try brush it off then find out how to get an appointment with the governors.

BarbaraRoyale · 01/02/2019 17:56

Totally unacceptable, and I would ask what their staff pupil ratio is for the playground too

Schweetcorn0000 · 04/02/2019 16:03

So I wrote to the school to say that I think kids with emotional difficulties should be specifically supervised while they are on the playground so they can’t act out like this and attack other pupils. I got a response saying that the school can’t predict children’s actions all the time. That action has been taken to discipline the boy who punched my youngest. Also that there is a lunch time club for children who find play times and lunch times difficult. That children are supervised at playtimes in all areas. Oh and that I would be told more quickly should this happen again.
No mention of we will make sure this doesn’t happen and that you can send your children to this school in the secure knowledge that other kids won’t attack them, and they will be safe. What the heck do even start with responding to that. It’s just a tale of caving in.

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