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to be frustrated with my manager?

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lottetta · 01/02/2019 12:47

I'm due to return to work in August after 6 months of maternity leave. My manager is a lovely woman but takes forever to get anything done! I want to come back to work part time (dropping from 5 days to 4 - I've said I'll have any day in the week off, I don't mind which one). I sent this request to her officially 4 months ago before I started my leave. I then sent her 2 reminders and spoke to her about it when I saw her in person. So I've chased it (thoroughly) 3 times. I had a phone call from my childminder saying I need to book now otherwise she's going to be full. We looked for weeks and weeks to find a childminder that suited us and that we trusted. Anyone who's a parent will know how important this is. I told my manager that I needed an answer about my part time hours and she said sorry I'll sort it etc.

Nothing. Radio silence.

I just booked the nursery spaces and am now hoping they'll be able to go with the days I've chosen (the only ones the childminder had left!). If my manager now comes back to me and says no, I'll be tempted to hand in my resignation because I've been chasing her for 4 months about it. She's an intimidating lady and I know that if I kept pestering she might just say no. If I went above her head she would hate me forever. I feel like because I was pregnant and going on mat leave that I was pretty much invisible to her, so my problems weren't immediate.

What if she says no? Do I have a leg to stand on re appeal because she ignored my request for 4.5 months?

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Stupidtrains · 01/02/2019 12:49

Can you raise a grievance?

badlydrawnperson · 01/02/2019 12:50

It sounds as if you'll need to phone her.

Dunno what you mean about appeal?

lottetta · 01/02/2019 12:51

@badlydrawnperson if they say no to my request, then I can appeal but I need a good reason to in order to actually win the appeal. I spoke to her on the phone when I raised it with her the second time, then in person when I visited. It's like talking to a brick wall.

@Stupidtrains I guess I could if it is declined but I would be scared too early on in my career. Sad I know.

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user1493413286 · 01/02/2019 12:55

Does your work have a policy? Mine had one stating how long they had to get back to me.

lottetta · 01/02/2019 12:56

@user1493413286 I have no idea but I'm going to look in to it now! I've just had a baby so am not quite as switched on as I usually would be.

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lottetta · 01/02/2019 13:08

I'm spending my maternity leave now stressed about this feeling like she will never sort it out.

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PoutySprout · 01/02/2019 13:10

Is there a formal process for requesting a change in hours (there should be) and have you followed it?

YorkshireCurly · 01/02/2019 13:11

Company I work for has a very easy to follow policy regarding flexible work applications and the timescales for response. Not sure what HR would do if we failed to follow it but I would expect a bollocking from HR at the very least if I failed to follow it. If you haven't had a response according to the policy from your manager then it's time to escalate it.

lottetta · 01/02/2019 13:13

@PoutySprout yep. Followed it by filling in the form, which goes to my line manager in the first instance, who is then meant to consult with her line manager and head of dept, who then agree it or don't. My bit is really quite small. I'm going to send a firm email today. It's so frustrating.

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Alwaysareasontomoan · 01/02/2019 13:14

There is a formal process for requesting flexible working hours. They are legally obliged to let you apply for it but not legally obliged to give it to you. After the interview with you they have two weeks to respond I think

lottetta · 01/02/2019 13:15

@Alwaysareasontomoan well it's been 4.5 months and I've asked about it 4 times in total including the first instance I asked for it!

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Alwaysareasontomoan · 01/02/2019 13:17

The have to get back to you within 3 months of your initial application. You need to take it up with your HR

lottetta · 01/02/2019 13:28

Just spoke to HR and they said the response time from her should've been 4 weeks from the day of receiving my application!

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Josico58 · 01/02/2019 14:06

Do you think your boss is dragging her heels because she'd trying to find a way to say no? Seems a bit suspect.

Don't resign over this, unless you actually want to leave.

She should be in hot water for lettiing this drag on and on without giving you a response.

I imagine if she does say no to those days, and you appeal - you would win, based on the fact you gave her sufficient warning, you gave them the choice of your day off, and you chased and chased for a confirmation that you didn't get, leaving you no option but to make a guess on the day you could book your childcare for.

CottonSock · 01/02/2019 14:09

Go to hr with all the dates etc, evidence of emails and ask when you can have a decision

CottonSock · 01/02/2019 14:10

I would just book the childminder for the 4 days if it was me

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