To ask wtf is a 'primary partner'?

[LookMumNoFeet]

I met someone through a shared hobby and he kept talking about his primary partner and how he lives with her at the weekend and with his mates for the rest of the week.
I didn't feel comfortable to ask him what it meant
Does anybody know what it means? It is that she's his main girlfriend but he's allowed to shag other people?
Or am I just too old to understand the concept?

I was on a BF page where the owner of the page was chastised for not including “poly parents” in some “inclusive” poster about BFing.
Poly makes it sound like polyester or plasticky. Anyway it sounds grim

I love my friends dearly, I'm definitely not polyamorous!

Surely loving your friends, whatever their sex, is just normal and doesn't need a special word. Loving or strongly liking someone that you don't have a physical relationship with is pretty much the definition of friendship.

I don't think anyone has said that it's about shagging around.

A person could be in a marriage and love their friends so they could be described as poly

A person in a monogamous marriage who has friends is not poly

If he's using phrases like "primary partner" repeatedly with someone he's only just met, it sounds like he's just attention seeking.

People who are doing the poly thing for genuine reasons just get on and do it, they don't shoehorn it in to conversations with strangers in hopes that you'll invite them to talk about it at length. Yawn...

@Polarbearflavour making polyamory marriages legal would be a nightmare though as who would be beneficiaries in circumstance such as death, who is the partner when assessing for tax things etc could be a minefield!

Can pansexuals come up with something else? We get it, you're better than those of us who do care about what genitals we put in our mouths.

Blimey, do you want some vinegar to go with that massive chip?