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To think this was a bit flirty ....

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readingtoomuchintothings · 31/01/2019 20:17

Get an email from a senior person in another team, working in another city, who've I've met the other day asking how was it going?
Completely out of the blue .... assumed it was work (we work in the same sector) related and came back with 'nightmare such and such has just happened' he then replied 'solution to the problem' and any plans to come to my city soon ? I said no (wondered where this is going) and asked him if he was planning to come to mine, wondered if it was a leading question? He said actually yes, planning a visit soon. I said business or social. He came back with a bit of both, will come to see a client then is hopeful for a night out.
Then started a bit of backward and forward about when I'd be free etc and if I was about. I kept trying to deflect, oh not drinking at the min etc. He said oh I'll delay it until your free...... etc etc hope I can twist your arm for a night out. All seemed a bit weird, but flirty .... I tried to joke about the boys in the office needing a 'pass' he asked me if I needed one? I stopped replying.
Cue another working day and had to ask him a genuine question and it's turned lots of backwards and forwards dialogue - work related but chatty. It should have been a quick, yes I'll look into that or here is the solution.
Yesterday I got an invite to a networking event, keen to go as it's a good client. Asked my director if he wants to go with me, his response was ask 'the chap that's been emailing you' it's a shared client for you.
Don't know why I feel weird about it, it would be a 'night out' just me and him ...... regular poster name changed. Both married for the record. Am I just reading too much into this or would you find this a bit odd ?!

OP posts:
stopfuckingshoutingatme · 01/02/2019 13:00

It’s january
Take the excitement where you can OP Grin work is so ducking DULL

boringlyboring · 01/02/2019 13:09

“Would you like some secret sex?”
“I will ask my husband how he feels about it”

😂😂😂

PregnantSea · 01/02/2019 13:16

Tbf he could just be angling for a night out and not be thinking about sexual stuff.

I used to work in an industry that isn't exactly known for it's professionalism, to be fair, and it was mostly people in their 20s working there, but it was quite common for people from other offices to use business travel as an excuse for a big piss up. They would have gone out with literally anyone in the office and happily would have started chatting to people they didn't really know to make it happen. No one wants to go drinking in an unknown city by themselves.

So I would say this depends on context. However he is married so... It does make the whole thing a bit weird.

Josico58 · 01/02/2019 14:16

He fancies you!

Also don't feel good about a guy that would pursue a woman when he knows (even vaguely) her husband.

If I was you, I wouldn't put myself into a position where I was alone with this guy. Not that he sounds like a predator, more that he sounds quite persuasive and the fact that you're quite flattered (and even sound a wee bit excited) by his advances, I just think you'd be playing with fire to go.

Could you go to the event and mingle with other people, then leave as soon as it's over?

Don't engage in the flirty emails if you're not interested. You're encouraging it.

Senioritafamiglia · 01/02/2019 14:19

Whole thing is off key and a bit gross. Sorry.

Thatsalovelycuppatea · 01/02/2019 14:21

Oh he's married. Erm tell him to take his wife out for a date instead lol Wink

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