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To ask how much you worry about your kids

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screamer1 · 31/01/2019 19:49

If there aren't any specific treasons to worry that is. I've got two small ones and just seem to worry about everything. It's exhausting and I'd love to get over it, because I can only see it getting worse as they get older.

I worry about whether they're going to be ok at school, friendships, personality quirks, where we live, health, my health everything.

Would happily take suggestions from anyone whose shrugged off the worries, or is this just the life of a parent?

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greeneyedlulu · 31/01/2019 20:11

We all worry about that stuff but you can't let it take over your life!!

God I worry every time I see my kid run, climb, scoot, slide but I can't be a helicopter mum and ruin his life..... sometimes kids just need to learn the hard way!! We can't mollycoddled them.... even if we want to!

I never want my son to feel hurt physically, emotionally or mentally but even I realise that's unrealistic!! They just have to go through this crap like we did!

Creacaluaidhe · 31/01/2019 20:15

I worry all the time. But mine has pretty serious issues. Myself and husband can sometimes get pretty down about what he’s facing.
Sorry not trying to be a downer. I have other ‘typical’ children and while I would have normal worries about them, they pale in comparison to how I fret over him.
So no advice really try not to. If they’re not ‘dealing’ with anything health and learning wise they’re already on an upward curve.

WineGummyBear · 31/01/2019 20:18

Comes and goes for me. I have a bit of a tendency to catastrophise things but then go long stretches without worrying at all. Writing that down makes me wonder whether it's to do with hormones or tiredness.

Prusik · 31/01/2019 20:19

I wouldn't say I particularly worry about my two. I did have health concerns about my eldest but on the whole they seem to be happy. I can't really explain why I don't worry about them. I guess I just parent instinctively and they seem pretty happy

SingingTunelessly · 31/01/2019 20:25

I don’t think you ever truly stop worrying about them even when they’re adults. Parenting = a lifetime of expense and worry. Interspersed with huge amounts of love, fear, frustration, anger and laughter. It’s supposed to be “worth it” apparently. Grin. Tonight I’m not sure I agree ....

WhiteCaribou · 31/01/2019 20:29

I worry about mine constantly, far more now they are adults than when they were small. I worry about them if they are driving any distance, I worry about their relationships (if it's a good one I worry that it will end and they'll be devastated, if it's a bad one I worry that they are stuck in it and suffering), I worry about their health, especially mental health and so on and so on. I never realised when I had them that the worry lasts a lifetime.

U2HasTheEdge · 31/01/2019 20:35

Yes I worry, but not so it takes over my life. It gets worse the older they get IME.

I worry much more about my teens than I do the younger ones. I especially worry about my oldest son because he isn't happy, full of anxiety and has been bullied a lot and his confidence has been knocked. I worry about him a lot more than my other two teens.

All my teens are sensible and I have never had to worry about drink and drugs etc but the worries are bigger the older they get and there is less you can do to protect them.

U2HasTheEdge · 31/01/2019 20:37

white. I was hoping someone would say that you worry less when they get further into adulthood.

DragonKiller · 31/01/2019 20:37

More than I thought I would, tbh. I have to make a conscious effort to let them be as independent as is good for them (albeit not a lot at their age)
But, reading through threads on here, I often find things to worry about which would never have occurred to me!

PhilomenaButterfly · 31/01/2019 20:37

Never.

Seline · 31/01/2019 20:38

A lot but my kids were all sick at birth so it's expected I guess

Missymoo71 · 31/01/2019 20:49

Mine are 21, 22, 26 and 30. I still worry about them 🙄

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screamer1 · 31/01/2019 20:52

Sorry you're all still worrying! Was really hoping there was going to be an end insight with it. Think I need to embark on some mindfulness.

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Drogosnextwife · 31/01/2019 20:56

I worry all the time,I imagine scenarios where terror things happen and sometimes well up, it's ridiculous. I am also a childminder and regularly have nightmares about terrible things happening to the children I look after and have previously looks after.

formerbabe · 31/01/2019 20:58

Pretty much constantly!

itsboiledeggsagain · 31/01/2019 21:00

I work in a demanding job and one of the benefits is that while I am at work I am too busy to worry. I get a bit navel gazey if I have too much time on my hands.

Prusik · 31/01/2019 21:01

@Seline that's really interesting because I attribute my lack of worrying due to the fact that ds1 was sick at birth

Huntawaymama · 31/01/2019 21:02

I worry far too much, it's exhausting

Begrateful · 31/01/2019 21:05

I do worry sometimes and also think it's a normal part of being a parent.😊

Begrateful · 31/01/2019 21:06

I do worry sometimes and also think it's a normal part of being a parent.😊

Racecardriver · 31/01/2019 21:09

We have found a really lovely nurturing school and I’ve really calmed down since. I feel like if any problems do arise between ourselves and the school it will be fine.

kitkatsky · 31/01/2019 21:12

The older she gets the more I relax. It's exhausting when they're tiny

cuntymckuntface · 31/01/2019 21:17

Every minute, hour, day, week, month, year since they were born.
Actually from before they were born.
I worried about getting pregnant.
Worried the whole time I was pregnant.
Thought the worry would ease once the baby arrived safely... oh no, that was just the start of it!
Despite what I've said, I am generally relaxed, but I always think about the impact that different things will have on them, mostly their mental health because I think that's the trickiest area to keep on top of.
I worry about when they're older, that if they find a partner that they are a good one. I worry that people will hurt them. I worry that they won't have a career that fulfils them and meets their needs, and keeps them happy.
I just want my kids to be happy, well adjusted people who contribute positively to society and are pleasant to be around.
One of my worst fears is that one of my kids turns out to be an asshole 😫

Ylvamoon · 31/01/2019 21:17

I take pleasure in the fact that they achieve the very thing I have been worried about.
E.G. worried about school, they come home happy and chatty...

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