Aibu to ask you to help me interpret these comments and actions - dating related.

[whatdoesthismean2019]

I like someone, we’re friends, both single and in the past, when I was unavailable he told me that he loved me. Now I’m single he says lovely things via text, talks about being in awe of my intelligence, that I’m funny, yesterday he told me I’m ‘gorgeous’

But, I’ve suggested getting together and he agreed but never sets a date, and if we do pinpoint a date he cancels!?!

Why could he be like this with me?

Because he enjoys having attention and admiration from you but isn't into you, and doesn't care enough about your feelings to make that clear to you. So he keeps you on
a string. Ditch.

Honestly, men are a nightmare. Love the attention, will take sexting and any amount of photos you will send them but the minute you want to go further they run a mile. I had this with a couple of guys, got strung along for ages. Far better to cut your losses now imo.

Thanks for the views, I’m actually really sad about it, nothing I can do to change it though I guess.

Why would he bother taking you out on a date and making an effort when he has you on tap saying nice things to him on his phone all day every day?

Like PP I think he likes the attention and ego boost he gets from you but doesn't actually want a real relationship. I'd sack him off.

Withdraw. Stop being emotionally available. He’s playing with you for whatever reason so if you reduce the scope for him to do that then you’re bound to feel better. Or just ditch him because who’s actually got time for these games?

Game player and time waster. Keeping you tangling for an ego boost.

How is he financially? Could it be that he is struggling money wise and doesn't want to admit to it? Hence not sticking to a date?

No financial issues but very busy with work, I don’t think that could be the reason though

Ask him out and see what he says?

I had a man use the ‘busy with work’ excuse. It’s just that, an excuse for something else. When a man is keen he always makes time.

Sorry OP but I think you should cut your losses for your own sake.

He’s breadcrumbing you...

He’s probably in a relationship but likes the attention from you. Block and move on.

When you meet someone else.it will be cow eyes and if only again. He likes the drama.and.the attention. He likes you as a friend and has probably wondered 'what if' but is not that into you, sorry OP. Like it says in the book - if was into you he would be booking that date.

Because he's using you for attention.

Block delete and move on.

What a disappointment and do I explain why, or just walk away?

He’s breadcrumbing you...

Never heard this one before but I have a feeling I'll like it - whatever it means!

OP - no need for any 'walking away' - just smile and be completely unavailable in every way. Disengage. Do not explain. Just be elsewhere.

I'd be interested to see how this goes down - my bet is, as someone said upthread, cow eyes and 'what if's' - which must be ignored too!

I think I’d say this texting and flirting has been fun but if we’re never going to take things any further and have a date it’s a waste of time. See ya!

No need to walk away, nothing wrong with having a friend who is supportive and flattering. But he is a friend.

I wouldn’t say anything just stop being available. If you say something he will throw you just enough crumbs to reel you back in then revert back.

Which is why block and delete is your best friend in this situation.