To think this is plain rude?

[Moondancer73]

After an opinion here really and will give a bit of background info without boring you all to death.
My mum has become fairly frail in the last year or so and has recently qualified for benefits that mean she can get some extra help.
A while ago I had a chat with a friend about her being a cleaner for mum once the money came through - this friend is always broke, for various reasons so she was the first person we thought of and mum trusts her. Mum was going to pay her £14 an hour as she's a bit out of town so that would cover fuel.
On Monday I messaged said friend and said 'mums money has come though, she wondered what day would be good for you to start'. The message was read and then I got no reply. I should add that this friend and I are close - we speak by message or phone every day but since this message and no reply from her I have deliberately left it to her to see what happens and there has been no contact.
My question is what do I do now? I'm fuming to be honest, I think it's exceptionally rude to not answer and plainly she has changed her mind but if she said so I'd much rather she said so.
I know if I message her I'm likely to come across as snippy but I feel like I deserve an answer.

Are you sure there's nothing going on in her life that means replying to your message has dropped off her radar? Problems with her own elderly relatives or children? Your post is very self centred.

I would gently but firmly say something like 'we'd still love you do be the person who cleans for mum, but if you're no longer keen, that's fine, but please let know before the end of Friday as I need to sort something out over the weekend'.

And yes, I'd be annoyed but it's probably not worth losing a friend over. Give her a deadline and a get out and move on either way.

At £14 per hour wonder if I can come and do it!

Maybe she’s changed her mind and is unsure about how to tell you, given that it’s clearly quite a delicate situation.

Can you phone her and have an honest chat about whether she wants to do it? I can understand her possibly being reticent about mixing friendship and business.

Maybe the friend didn't quite like to say no at the time?

A while ago I had a chat with a friend about her being a cleaner for mum once the money came through - this friend is always broke, for various reasons so she was the first person we thought of.
Does sound a bit like you suggested it and it wasn't your friend's idea.

You don't say that when you mentioned it to your friend she said, oh yes, I'd love to do that or she said nothing, hoping you forget about it!

I'm with the fact she probably doesn't want to do it. Just text her asking g again if she wants to.
Personallynif get a stranger burning worse than falling out because she doesn't work hard enough or she's unhappy with something g - don't mix business and friendship

She doesn't want to do it. Advertise for someone on FB.

She doesn't want to do it, and doesn't know how to tell you.
I'd send a text like PP above suggested and find someone else.

I maybe should have said that she already does cash in hand cleaning hence me asking her and I know she's ok because she's posting in Facebook, Snapchat etc. When the idea came up we discussed it and the rate and she was all up for it so I don't get the radio silence. I do know that she has a new, much younger man and it's been taking her longer and longer to reply to messages. My post isn't meant to sound self centred- at £14 an hour we were trying to help her out!

Depends on her reaction when you first offered her the job. Was she happy and enthusiastic about it, or did you offer her a cleaning job out of the blue, and she didn’t really give an answer?
I’d probably send another, just saying “hi, could you let me know if you’d be interested in the cleaning job? If not, that’s absolutely fine, I’ll look for someone else”. No need to be angry or rude to her.

Sorry, cross post. Maybe she just forgot to reply then. Again, follow up without being rude though.

This is why you should get a proffesional in, preferably with checks and references. Cash in hand is ok for one off, helping out, you want someone reliable to help mum regularly. Has she had needs assessment?

We are in the process of all of that at the moment, physio, o.t etc but this money is attendance allowance to help pay for a cleaner and meals as she can't stand to cook.