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Two year old says she hates me and her dad

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teapotter1 · 30/01/2019 22:07

My daughter is 2.5 years old and says she hates her dada and her muma

Is this just a stage

We have a 7 month old baby do I not give her enough attention? Is she fully aware of what she's saying?

I try to give her as much as I can, we all have breakfast together, play together, when her sister sleeps we play together. Some days she doesn't get much attention but I try to.

It's making me feel terrible

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Haggisfish · 30/01/2019 22:08

Of course it’s just a stage. The only response is’im sorry you feel that way. I will always love you. Shall we have a hug?’

RedPandaFluff · 30/01/2019 22:09

Ahhh @teapotter1 they'll do anything for a reaction at that age! She's probably learned that saying this provokes attention/reaction from you so, clever little sponges that they are, she'll do it again and again.

She won't understand the concept of hatred, don't worry! 💐

TulipsInbloom1 · 30/01/2019 22:10

It's definitely a phase, but I'd be concerned if a 2.5yo is using the word hate. "No like" or similar yes but I don't think your typical 2.5yo would have heard the word hate/know it in that context.

Draculahhh · 30/01/2019 22:10

Don't take it personally, they all go through this

Hugglessnuggles · 30/01/2019 22:13

She won’t understand what the word ‘hate’ means. I remember ds2 went around telling everyone they were a bum face. Like your little one and the word hate, no idea where he picked it up. Lasted a short amount of time and went again. Don’t worry!

EwItsAHooman · 30/01/2019 22:15

It's a phase, she's clocked onto a phrase that she knows has shock value and that she can use to express her displeasure at you and her dad aka the authors of her every misery. My DD is very almost 2yo and her choice phrase at the minute is "no luff you" whenever she's told not to do something Hmm

I wouldn't be concerned about where she's picked it up from, it's only a word. TV, relatives, kids at nursery, overheard in the street, storybooks, she could have gotten it from any number of perfectly ordinary places.

Wearywithteens · 30/01/2019 22:16

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Suziepoozie · 30/01/2019 22:19

Does she go to nursery or groups? She’s probably picked it up somewhere, maybe tv? I know it feels crap but honestly she has no idea what it really means at that age!

Atalune · 30/01/2019 22:22

Ds used to say this! I would say, oh too bad cos I LOVE YOU! and kiss and cuddle and him and tickle.

It’s just a phase. Don’t think about it.

moredoll · 30/01/2019 22:22

I'd be concerned if a 2.5yo is using the word hate. "No like" or similar yes but I don't think your typical 2.5yo would have heard the word hate/know it in that context.

Me too. If she's going to childcare I'd mention it to them.

Loyaultemelie · 30/01/2019 22:25

My 3 year old currently HATES Daddy but LOVES Mummy. Big sister varies by day as does boycat. Girl cat seems to be in the same camp as me (we are the best obviously Grin) She frequently yells at Daddy that she hates him (thanks xxx in nursery you know who you are!) often when sitting on his knee or trying to get on his shoulders to make him play (funny enough rarely when he's about to go to the shop!) but DH takes it in very good grace as he knows it's just a phase.

EwItsAHooman · 30/01/2019 22:26

It's the word hate, not cunt or shit or pack it in you little bastard. There is nothing concerning about it or concerning about where she has picked it up from. It's developmentally normal for a child of this age to express their dislikes/displeasure in this way and there is really no need to overreact by overthinking where she could have picked it up.

Mummyto2munchkins · 30/01/2019 22:28

My 3 year old says she doesn't want me anymore, but wants her daddy! Just a phase. Some days she will come over and asks for hugs and kisses and tells me she loves me, others she doesn't want me.. Dont get yourself upset OP she'll love you again soon! Flowers

Believeitornot · 30/01/2019 22:28

She’s 2. She won’t know exactly what this means so don’t take it personally!

It’s just her way of saying she wants more cuddles and love. And try and do it when sister is awake, not just when she’s asleep. Try and prioritise the toddler every now and then too so she feels special - when baby is awake.

MsTSwift · 30/01/2019 22:29

Stage. Dd1 did this against me at exactly the same age. My sisters eldest did too. It passes but is upsetting. My lovely aunt retired hv says it’s because they feel so secure in their relationship with you they feel free to push at you. Passes off we both now have lovely affectionate older children

Chocolate1984 · 30/01/2019 22:37

I'd say it's pretty normal. Mine usually calls me a poo head though.

Charmatt · 30/01/2019 22:42

When my DD was 2 she would scream for almost 2 hours a night that she hated me and wasn't going to bed......she's 11 now and much more reasonable!

It's a phase!

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