To be massive and think people should be a bit more considerate

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As the title suggests, offer me a seat in a meeting thats over capacity, offer to make me a drink if they are getting one anyway, let me exit the building without fear of being stuck in a stationary revolving door (seriously).

I'm very pregnant with twins, I was a size 8 pre twins and now honestly struggle to remove myself from a chair/stand as I'm certain I've quadrupled in the amount of area I take up.

Some people are lovely, but others are just unhelpful/in the way I know women have been having babies for all of time but still :(

Isn't it just human decency to ask someone who's disabled in some way - which the OP is by her twin pregnancy - if they want a cup of tea when you're making one yourself?

I'm shocked that pregnant women expect everyone to be aware of their every need

Use your eyes.

I feel your pain I remember the feeling well my girls are 6 now but I was massive carrying them at only 5 ft I was probably wider than I was tall they were 7lb15.5 and 7lb2 too think I'd have popped if they'd have left me longer than 38 weeks 🙈

I once went to an antenatal appointment where a man sat down on the only available seat and left his partner and another heavily pregnant woman standing. I told him the seats were for patients and he hastily got up, but no apologies to anyone. People are bloody selfish sometimes.

I always offer my seat to pregnant women, elderly people, those with young children, people with walking sticks etc, but it’s amazing how many people just look the other way.

I always used to find that old ladies were the worst when I’d struggle on to a bus with my huge bump. They’d sit in the aisle seat and leave their bag in the other seat whilst expecting me to lug myself to the back, and they’d tut if I caught them as I walked past. They’re quick to complain about the youth of today though!

Use your eyes

Or the op could use her mouth?

Are you Meghan Markle? I feel for you, you'll have to ask people to offer you a seat or whatever. Although you may feel like a beached whale, most won't even have noticed you're pregnant.

Word of warning - start being careful around taking baths - only bath when someone else is in house, in earshot (no headphones, door open). Totally possible to get totally stuck in bath in late stages of twin pregnancy.

I was having a bad day yesterday (clearly). Just getting anywhere is exhausting. I'm not expecting to waited on, just a bit of courtesy - which is what I believe I've always given pregnant women.

The drink thing isn't me being lazy, but it's actually remarkably hard for me to get in and out of my chair, and then be able to get the milk from the low level fridge.

As for the meeting thing, people were speaking and everyone else was listening so I didn't want to interupt.

Theres no mistaking I'm pregnant - I look extremely pregnant no debate about it (Jabba limb reference is very relevant.)

That bath advice is scary and VERY noted.

Also originally was planning on starting Mat leave at 35 weeks, but have an appointment tomorrow and feel that might be unlikely.

Oh I agree with the bath recommendations - a friend of mine went into the bath at very late stage pregnancy and couldn't get out - had to call an ambulance to get her out as she'd started labour and could not, at all, get herself out the bath. Luckily she had her phone with her!

I can't believe you're 31 weeks pregnant with twins and no-one offered you a sodding chair?!

You should have bloody said to the entire room 'Can someone give me a chair please!!'

These people

And I don't think you're being precious at all re the drinks - everything is harder when you're pregnant. People forget so quickly.

I'm shocked that pregnant women expect everyone to be aware of their every need

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Not every need, no. Bit of courstey doesn't go amiss once in a while though

YABU re the drinks

It would be just as easy for you to say "I'm struggling to get up and get a drink. would it be okay to get me one?" and establish a routine of drinks getting with your officemate.

That makes more sense than some bizarre system in which every person in every office is supposed to assume that no heavily pregnant person can ever get a drink for themselves and start incessantly offering.

next year's mumsnet: AIBU to be sick of people offering me drinks? I'm pregnant. not disabled!

Don't be afraid to ask nicely for what you need. People lack imagination but are often happy to help if you are clear

The drink thing also depends on the accepted office etiquette. In any workplace I've been in, it's all for themselves, you get a drink when you need it, and don't have time to walk around checking if anyone else wants one. It just wouldn't work. If you work in the kind of office where everyone takes turns making the coffee, that would be different.

The OP has said she wants people to make her a drink, but at any point when she wasn't pregnant, did she offer to make anyone else a drink when she was getting one? That would make a big difference in whether or not people should be offering her a drink.

Office etiquette regarding drinks is just to how people feel how stressed they are. In quiet periods everyone offers everyone - sat around me are 3 men who work full time who don't often offer and two women who work part time, but always offer when they're there.

I have in the past always taken part in the drinks rounds, and especially when people look like the need one/need the help/dont have the time.