My Dh and me have three children. Two have special needs - the youngest is 6 and has a lot of difficulties. My dh and I made the decision for me to be a sahm though I did some contract work last year though we had a lot of issues with our youngest not being allowed into school. And dc would only be in for a couple of hours a day.
My dh has a few hobbies which is fair enough but they involve evenings. He normally plays at one of his hobbies once a week and does the other two evenings and on a Saturday morning. I don’t know if I’m IBU as I’d actually like to spend time with him but he seems to prefer going out - though he says it’s just because he has hobbies. I appreciate I have the daytimes to myself (though it’s hard to meet people so I’m alone aside from our dog during school time). It’s also hard when he goes out on some evenings as I’m left to put all the kids to bed. I suppose I just feel a bit lonely and neglected. But maybe I ought to try and craft a life myself but the school yard is cliquey and I tend to have quite solitary hobbies that aren’t overly compatible with family life like hiking which I don’t do as the dc have some physical issues.