AIBU To not go to baby group due to colds?

[Sleepingbabiesareamyth]

My 5mo and myself both have a cold at the moment. Fine in ourselves but just at the snotty stage still. My DH thinks I am being unreasonable to say I don't think I should take our baby to baby group tomorrow as it wouldn't be fair on the other mother's and babies. He thinks I should just go as we've already paid.
I am a first time mum and don't want to be making a faux pas by going and having everyone curse me for taking my lo and myself to the group.
Can someone please enlighten me on the correct etiquette.

As long as he doesn’t have a temperature then go.

If you stay at home every time your baby is a bit snotty you'll be home a lot! Go to the baby group, you won't be the first with a cold and you won't be the last.

I'd expect 50percent to have a cold, babies and toddlers seem to always have colds.

If you feel up to it and want to then go. Toddler groups are a bit different as they run around and spread germs, you're likely to be more contained.

I wouldn’t. Was at one yesterday and a poorly baby was sneezing and coughing over the playmat and all the toys he put in his mouth. The other mums with babies all left. It’s not nice to expose other babies to it if you can avoid it.

Don't isolate yourself op. It's important as a mum to get out and about. Kids get colds and still go to school ..it's part of life.

Depends how bad you're feeling and if you're going to be sneezing and coughing everywhere I'd say.

If you stay at home every time your baby is a bit snotty you'll be home a lot!

Seconded.

Bit of snot wouldn't bother me, any worse stay home and have cuddles instead.

As she’s 5m and will just be lying there, and you I assume have basic hygiene standards I’d say you’ll be fine.
If she was older I would say - If it’s full of first time mums you may get some looks... if there are mums there with their second/ third and later babies, nannies, childminders etc they wouldn’t bat an eyelid. Lucky first time babies who don’t really get many bugs until they go to nursery! My twins are DC2 and 3 and we wouldn’t go anywhere if we had to stay home when one or the other had a cold. (as another poster said, if they have a temp that’s different)

Most babies get 10 colds a year for the first couple of years. It’s annoying but just one of those things and no one expects you to stay home.

Vomiting bugs on the other hand are an absolute no no, even if your baby is feeling better s/he should stay home for a couple of days and not go near other kids.

It's fine to go if you just have a cold (no temp, no dodgy tummy). It's also fine to stay home if you're feeling lazy and you'd rather cuddle up on the sofa. At 5 months old the group is for your benefit more than the baby's so do whatever you'd prefer.

If it’s ‘just’ a cold so runny nose but no temperature I would still go.
DS (13mths) has had various colds non stop since November, there’s no way we couldn’t have left the house for 3+mths.

As above a cold only crack on and head out. Temperature, vommiting etc. stay home. Mine are 3 and 2 and if I stated home anytime one of us had a cold I might never leave the house again.

I personally wouldn’t go (and didn’t when my twins were sick). No one else wants to get sick. I seem to be in the minority but I think it’s selfish to knowingly expose other people to illness - especially when it can be avoided.

Everybody takes themselves and their babies full of cold to groups both free and paid around here.

I think it's really only the first 3 days of symptoms that you're highly contagious.

General rule with baby groups we went to was a bit snotty = fine to attend. Temperature or upset stomach stay at home.

If you feel miserable, don’t go, but I wouldn’t stay home on account of the baby having a cold because you would be stuck indoors until they start primary school. I know this sounds like an exaggeration, but honestly, the runny nose stage is pretty much permanent until they’ve been in nursery/preschool for a year.

Babies build up their immunity by being exposed to all kinds of germs. It's annoying, but you can't protect your baby from all germs,. If it's just a bit of a cold and there's no temperature, there's no reason not to go, apart from if you don't want to go because you feel rubbish.

Agree with PPs. DS (just shy of 5 months) has been slightly cold-ish and possibly teething for a couple of weeks now. We’ve been going to baby signing and even swimming lessons as he’s fine in himself and gets desperately bored at home. I’ve had a tickly cough for about two weeks too but otherwise feel completely fine. Good hand hygiene seems reasonable enough to me.

Thank you all. Yep pretty much everyone in the group is a ftm not just me. Baby had a temp yesterday but no temp today. Just seriously snotty with a cough here and there.